satine you know us ENFPs so well!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!An ENFP will typically try to explain to the other person why they did something, not as a way to weasel out of the responsibility, but to increase understanding and harmony. Similarly, they will often not be aware of the fact that their transgression is once again in that social manual that everyone seems to know, and therefore not see it fit to actually apologize for something that to them was not intended in harm and in their eyes also didn't really harm anyone.
embarrassingly it took one of my Fe dom friends to point out that, uh, hurtful words in arguments are hurtful. this has got to be in that lost social manual. i was like, wait... oh, shit... they were just for the sake of arguing... i think she was dumbfounded. reasonably so.
yeah... it's kind of protective for other people too. if i don't want to do something and go anyway and really am miserable i might just be a bitch the whole time.2) Flakiness. Wherever the mood takes me, is where I go, making it hard to plan *anything* or not feel forced when I do agree to something when later I don't feel like it anymore
me too satine. my Fe mom does this sometimes and i HATE it. it's a bad combo of getting distracted and just disliking/avoiding mundane tasks. my mom will do things for me and then guilt-trip and i'll be like wtf! i didn't ask! and then she'll remind me that she'd asked me a week ago.... haha oops...I really really hate what I perceive to be emotional guilttripping ( I grew up in a house of Fe-people, not all equally healthy). It makes me rebel beyond all reason. If you ask me to do something for you genuinly, I'll jump through every hoop to make it so, if I know it to be important to you. Whine that I haven't done it yet, while you didn't even ask, and I'll bend over backwards and cut my own throat before I give you what you want. I *am* working on this
yes, me too. i really don't like directing people anyway. second-in-command is a wonderful ENFP position.I love freedom but leadership can be draining on me. I rather be the 'right hand', as constantly having to think ahead, plan and direct people can be quite daunting.