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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    Attraction to very orderly structured stubborn SJs and robotic INTJs. Don't want schedules or other people to control me, yet have strong attraction to structure and dominance in men. Read murder mysteries for escape, think this is connected to attraction to order.

    I've heard ENFPs are attracted to IxTJs. I just wonder if it's an ENFP thing or because I'm an E6. It seems almost non-sensical and paradoxical. It's been going on since my early 20's. I think I want someone to take care of me. This is bizarre since I usually rebel against other people's idea of structure.

    It seems as though an ENFP would want to be with someone a little more loose and easy-going, but then again that makes me feel like I'd have to be the one in charge and I don't want that.

    I think I need my head examined.
    I have this problem too. >.< ...Right now I am in a relationship with an INTX, I can't figure out the J or P for the life of me...sometimes he acts really J, other times I look at how our house looks, and he must be a P. /shrug. Either way it's still related to that...I think I like having friends that are closer to my type (although the E and I factor doesn't matter to me), but when it comes to relationships, I have to have a common ground with them, at least something in common or our universal way of thinking, then everything else to be opposite. That's pretty much how my life has played out...I get crushes on other ENFPs or INFPs for example, but usually it doesn't go very far. Blah.

    I'm not an E6, but I think I score a little high on it...I have gotten mixed results, I used to get 4 all the time, now I get 9...but either this is a coincidence between us two or it really is an ENFP-ish phenomena.
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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    Read murder mysteries for escape, think this is connected to attraction to order.
    me too i can't stand those generic romance novels women are supposed to love. i like action. i mean, if there's a romance too, great, but i don't really need anymore feeeeelings. i get enough of that shit in my head already. my preferred genre is definitely ESTP, lol.

    It seems as though an ENFP would want to be with someone a little more loose and easy-going, but then again that makes me feel like I'd have to be the one in charge and I don't want that.
    nah, i dunno, i like my partner to be a little more structured than me. i can be in charge but don't really want to be, and i think it's nice to have someone along with you who almost always has a stable idea of what they want. and as long as they care about me sufficiently, their opinions and behavior will account for me too, so it's kind of a win-win. they get someone who will often go along with what they'd like, and i get someone who provides me with a safe arena to be my somewhat bouncy flouncy fluid self.

    i guess being an e3 i should prefer to be in control, but it doesn't really work out that way. i do like someone to be approving of me, though. that matters a lot.

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    It's the security and confidence that does us in. For us, there are constantly numerous pathways to take and yet they seem so sure about that one pathway..And the way they explain it, it sounds very good, though a bit scary = adventure. Meanwhile we don't have to scout like a maniac and worry about which path to take. We can just go along for the ride. [...] So I have the creative freedom to do what I want within the boundaries they give me, which are wide enough for me to not feel caged while at the same time providing a sense of security as I only have to do the rabbit trick with minor stuff and I cannot fuck up anything big, since that's been taken care of with their preparation. It creates a safe haven where they are, which makes me wanna be there, regain my strenght, only to bolt back out the door and go play magician once more without feeling like frigging Atlas.
    yup. well said. and ideally, when shit falls apart - if there's an emergency or something really stressful or totally unexpected, then i can pop back in and do chaos magic and navigate us through the rough patch, until my J (or Ti) partner is ready to take the wheel again.

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    IRight now I am in a relationship with an INTX, I can't figure out the J or P for the life of me...sometimes he acts really J, other times I look at how our house looks, and he must be a P. /shrug.
    haha, i understand. i live with two INTPs, and they seem REALLY J sometimes, to the point that i used to occasionally wonder if the older one wasn't INTJ. but they're both SO strong on Ti that i'm sure they're INTP. the ways in which they're J tend to be that they don't like change, they're very meticulous with their personal belongings (though not necessarily organized), they are very opinionated about certain things, they hate being late, and are very direct. on the other hand, they leave stuff all over the house, don't usually have their papers organized, tend to forget little things, don't like leading, and don't like planning.

    just thought it'd be interesting for you to hear for comparison's sake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    I've heard ENFPs are attracted to IxTJs. I just wonder if it's an ENFP thing or because I'm an E6. It seems almost non-sensical and paradoxical. It's been going on since my early 20's. I think I want someone to take care of me. This is bizarre since I usually rebel against other people's idea of structure.
    It seems as though an ENFP would want to be with someone a little more loose and easy-going, but then again that makes me feel like I'd have to be the one in charge and I don't want that.

    I think I need my head examined.
    What we need is someone who wants to take care of us without trying to change us.

    I want someone who doesn't mind doing the mundane stuff I hate (taxes, housework, etc.), and in so doing, enables me to focus on whatever gives my life meaning. An element of empowerment is critical... you don't want someone whose idea of taking care of you is acting like an authoritarian parent and smothering your spontaneous brand of creative living. F*#k that...

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    NO ONE needs someone to take care of them. Don't fool yourselves ENFPs.

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    But it sure is convenient...

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    Its about team-work imo. It's nice to have someone who will offset my weaknesses and vice versa. That means that together we stand strong against the world.
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    Team work is about 1 + 1 = 2 not 0,5 + 0,5 = 1 :P

    I mean sure, I could get myself an ISFJ who did everything I didn't want to do (being good at something is a matter of a practice, not something merely inherent)...but I prefer to be independent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moiety View Post
    Team work is about 1 + 1 = 2 not 0,5 + 0,5 = 1 :P

    I mean sure, I could get myself an ISFJ who did everything I didn't want to do (being good at something is a matter of a practice, not something merely inherent)...but I prefer to be independent.
    Such very limited a perception of teamwork.

    As I have economics as a hobby I tell you that at + bt > ai + bi

    where at > ai
    and bt > bi

    Where ij, i = particpant, j = individual (i) or team (t)

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    Such very limited a perception of teamwork.

    As I have economics as a hobby I tell you that at + bt > ai + bi

    where at > ai
    and bt > bi

    Where ij, i = particpant, j = individual (i) or team (t)
    Lol, I always hated economics anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moiety View Post
    Lol, I always hated economics anyway.
    Quite and it relates perfectly to this 'the whole is greater than the sum of it's parts statement...

    Quote Originally Posted by phoenix13 View Post
    I want someone who doesn't mind doing the mundane stuff I hate (taxes, housework, etc.), and in so doing, enables me to focus on whatever gives my life meaning. An element of empowerment is critical... you don't want someone whose idea of taking care of you is acting like an authoritarian parent and smothering your spontaneous brand of creative living. F*#k that...
    Of course, the typical ENFP issue is that they don't understand that others may have things they value more than washing their damned dishes and doing their boring tax returns @_@.

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