targo, as far as ENFPs needing more alone time than any other extravert? See 4th paragraph on this page ->Portrait of an ENFP
Fidelia, that's interesting that you said ENFJs are supposed to be like ENFPs in this way. I've never read that before. In fact, I've read just the opposite. Take for example, this ENFJ profile.
So I'd love to know where you've read about ENFJs being more introverted than other extraverts like ENFPs. Personality profiles can be highly variable in quality. So I try to read as many profiles of a particular personality type that I can in order to make the best judgment about which pieces of which profiles are most correct. I'd love to see this one....too much time alone can make an ENFJ pensive, moody, self-punitive, and depressed. More than other types the ENFJ needs to move among and be engaged by people. Even a negative stroke from another person is better than being ignored.
Being an Introverted Extravert
ENFPs. It's almost impossible for me to shut off "reading" the emotional vibe of the people around me. It's also very difficult for me to not be in a reactive posture when around other people. This means that if I don't get alone time, it'd be easy for me to lose sense of myself and my own center of gravity. Alone time allows me to center myself and analyze whether or not what I'm doing (which is dictated, in large part, by the people around me) is true to my own value system and my needs.
ENFJs. I've heard that ENFJs can be (and usually are) surrounded by people all the time, which is to be expected of any extravert. But I've also have heard that ENFJs are emotionally intimate with only a select few. One ENFJ on this forum once posted that they only let those in their inner circle see their "true selves" without the Fe facade and that these inner circle people were very few indeed. (Note no pejorative undertone to "facade" is intended. Just my Te observation about how Fe works.)
The Difference. I've concluded that the difference between ENFPs and ENFJs in regard to being alone is that ENFPs need time away from people to disengage from others and to remember who they are as individuals. (When an ENFP engages in a casual conversation with someone, they aren't afraid to bare their soul / make a connection / reveal their true selves. Voila Fi.) Whereas ENFJs with their dominant Fe don't lose their sense of self when they are engaging others. I read this as Fe allowing them to be socially aware and capable while holding others at arm's length from the ENFJ's true self. It's not that ENFJs have a problem staying in touch with their true selves. Converse to ENFPs, they have a hard time revealing their true selves to others. They, like INFJs, do this with only a select few.
So perhaps we can say that ENFPs often need time alone, and ENFJs often feel alone in a crowded room.
Of course, this is just Esoteric Wench's conjecture. Thoughts? Comments? Criticisms?