I kind of wanted to participate in this thread. But these neat walls of text prevent me.
Thread: Common ENFP issues
07-24-2010, 04:35 PM #101
07-24-2010, 04:56 PM #102
07-24-2010, 07:23 PM #103
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- 7+4 sx/sp
Considering this, and how judgers lives tend to be organized and full of preparations, it's pretty logical that they are more inclined towards social norms and standards for expressing themselves, while percievers go with their own natural tendency to 'wing it'. (Now I know there's more to it than this but I'm just too tired...)
On resolving the issues that's arise... that's the headache I guess
I think this means that, Fi users wishing to communicate with Fe-users do best to learn the rules or just state that they don't know them and hope that Fe-users accept that.
For Fe-users wishing to communicate to Fi-users, I think the best way would be to simply be blunt and objective (Te) without venting anger at Fi-users for not reading their Fe, alternately teach them the language of Fe.
On the matter of reaching out to people who are angry with you... I'm sorry but when it comes to this issue with an ENFP I'm unsure if you actually can win at some times. Unless you have a really really good explanation, let time do the work to dissipate the anger or hope that chance brings you together so that the person is forced to forgive you because holding on to the hurt values simply isn't working anymore. Although being there even though we protest might work (like in the movies when the girl keeps hitting the guy who just stands there and then hugs her untill she starts crying instead), be aware that this can probably result in an escalation of negative feedback if the NFP in question deems that no agreement can be reached.
Last edited by Elemental Chaos; 07-24-2010 at 08:26 PM. Reason: Sooo much I want to comment...Ennea:7w8sx/so (?)
Extravert(33%) iNtuitive(50%) Feeling(25%) Perceiving(11)%
So apparently I might be epileptic. Thanks brain, keep malfunctioning. I didn't think it could be that bad seeing starfalls in bookshelves. I just thought I was psychotic.
07-24-2010, 08:18 PM #104
07-24-2010, 09:12 PM #105Freude, schöner Götterfunken Tochter aus Elysium, Wir betreten feuertrunken, Himmlische, dein Heiligtum! Deine Zauber binden wieder Was die Mode streng geteilt; Alle Menschen werden Brüder, Wo dein sanfter Flügel weilt.
07-24-2010, 10:03 PM #106
I'm not too big on the hurt word being used in this thread either, because I rarely feel hurt or insulted. Sometimes shamed but that is self imposed because I have taken actions which I disagree with. The most common thing I feel when I get a bit moody is stuck or boxed in. I'm presented with a situation I don't disagree with but can't adapt to or work within, and drive myself crazy trying to see a satisfactory way out. I've got a bad habit of not wanting to burden people or share the load either, which can stop things being resolved as quickly.Freude, schöner Götterfunken Tochter aus Elysium, Wir betreten feuertrunken, Himmlische, dein Heiligtum! Deine Zauber binden wieder Was die Mode streng geteilt; Alle Menschen werden Brüder, Wo dein sanfter Flügel weilt.
07-24-2010, 10:10 PM #107
07-24-2010, 10:18 PM #108
07-24-2010, 11:45 PM #109
07-25-2010, 01:32 AM #110
For real, reading five paragraphs is that hard?
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