My ENFJ-ex actually pursued me. We were both posters at a message board that was a support group for young people with depression. We met through a friend of ours on AIM. Our first telephone conversation was me staying up with her until 2am convincing her not to hurt herself.
After a while of talking with some other people she started to tell me how she "wanted me to herself" so that I devoted all of my time to her. She was always so nice and warm to me that eventually I did, I let her catch me and I'm glad I did .
It was a long distance relationship but we were together for about 2 and 1/2 years (of which we were physically together for about 3 months). She told me repeatedly she was drawn to me because I was always "so gentle and kind with her". She is to this day one of the sweetest people I've ever met.
I loved her very much and consider any man that's won over a (healthy) ENFJ female to be a lucky man indeed