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    Default Impossible ENFJs

    Do you know any impossible ENFJs? That person that always thinks everyone is out to get them, gets hurt by any sort of commentary, doesn't see any value in logic and has Se outbursts?

    How do you deal with one of those?

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    Hey sounds like me!

    *hides*

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    Hey sounds like me!

    *hides*
    You get shot with one of these:



    GET OUT FROM BEHIND THAT WALL NOW!!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    GET OUT FROM BEHIND THAT WALL NOW!!!!!!
    No...? Yes. No. Oh, sorry this was for enfj's.... my answer is still no.

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    I actually do know one! She is an older lady that I work with who is NUTS.

    She got in trouble on Friday, a couple people complained about her to the supervisor and she got butt hurt...afterwards she pulled me aside to talk and she pretty much broke down crying poor lady. I listened, gave her advice on how to handle the crazy situations she gets herself into, & tried to relate with her.

    All they need is someone to trust and to confide in, and someone who will tell them the truth about their behavior- **but in a supppper tactful/gentle way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparrow View Post
    I actually do know one! She is an older lady that I work with who is NUTS.

    She got in trouble on Friday, a couple people complained about her to the supervisor and she got butt hurt...afterwards she pulled me aside to talk and she pretty much broke down crying poor lady. I listened, gave her advice on how to handle the crazy situations she gets herself into, & tried to relate with her.

    All they need is someone to trust and to confide in, and someone who will tell them the truth about their behavior- **but in a supppper tactful/gentle way.
    What if they are your mother and you are a maverick of an ENXP who is blunt as a mace, hates being controlled, tries to use logic to gain agreement with people and is not allowed to disagree with anything?

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    My dad is an ENFJ and he behaves like nut sometimes. Especially, when he's in an environment where the values or morals are bad/non-existent. He gets very self-righteous, arrogant, and a starts using a subjective type of logic.
    We argue and end up in some type of Fe-Fe explosion.that goes something like this: . And leaves us both drained because the interaction was so toxic. I always just save my "observations" for the right moments. Unhealthy enfj's get energized by wild emotional displays. The only thing that slows my dad down is absorbing huge amounts of negative energy that makes him feel like: :ouch:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    What if they are your mother and you are a maverick of an ENXP who is blunt as a mace, hates being controlled, tries to use logic to gain agreement with people and is not allowed to disagree with anything?
    Oh man, mom's are a different story. Maybe try and share other perspectives with her, be patient, have empathy for her, and be nice!
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    I know an ENFJ guy who is impossible in that he uses very subjective logic and a ridiculously strong idealism to think it is HIS personal responsibility to mend/fix/help EVERY person and relationship and social system on the planet.

    He once tried for hours to get someone at animal control to come to a park on a Sunday because he saw an opossum in a hole at midday and thought it must be sick because it looked "lethargic." He was completely baffled when everyone protested that he was going overboard, and seemed immune to reasoning such as 1) opossums are nocturnal and sleep in holes. 2) animal control doesn't give a crap about one opossum in a hole in the park.

    He really believed that someone would share his worry and conviction and come down to confirm it had rabies or something so that the "poor thing" would be put out of its misery and the world would be a safer place for all. He spent about an hour total outside its hole harassing it, the entire event (a bbq party) rattling on about it, and half a week leaving messages on people's answering machines trying to get animal control to hear his plea.

    This was minor. He also had a phase where he got the idea to reunite his girlfriend's son with the boy's abusive father (who she had taken great effort to hide their whereabouts from after he was released from prison) AGAINST HER WILL OR KNOWLEDGE. The father had been making threats to kidnap the child and take him to Mexico (as well as doing various nasty things to her). He thought that by arranging a surprise reunion he could get everyone talking and 'work it all out' or something. Fortunately he contacted a bunch of people beforehand to ask their opinion on the idea and was dissuaded.

    He seems completely stable most of the time. He says he's bipolar but that only seems to show up in his relationship. It has been pretty scary for me because I see qualities in him that are so reflective of a kind of 'primal' me. A lot of the things he says and does remind me of things I learned NOT to let myself do when I was about 6 or 7 years old. haha. It's freaky that someone can hold onto that way of thinking and naivety for half their life.
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