I am disappointed in one failed friendship with a woman here in town who plays my same instrument. I *really* liked her a lot, but she was always really distant. At first she seemed invested in getting to know me, but then she became really distant and it would take months of occasional email communication to get together for coffee. She would also ignore me at work meetings and be friendly to others which hurt my feelings. I finally just decided that she must be disappointed or disinterested in knowing me and have given up. She would throw out a little double message and I think she may have played some social games. I still like her, but this friendship thing is not worth the effort and confusion and so that disappoints me.