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    Default INFJ intense and deep

    I have been told frequently that people consider me to be "deep" or "intense," but I'm not sure what they mean. I know that I am a deep thinker, but how do you suppose people see that (externally) as a characteristic?

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    My INFJ girlfriend was always brewing something in her head. Something with multiple layers that extended far into the past and future. It feels witchy and it always made me curious. It's what I find fascinating about her. She is so idiosyncratic and unusual. So possessed of her own personal sense of herself. Regardless of what the world around her demands. It is a radical assertion of self that makes me feel like I am in the presence of someone who has an otherworldly understanding and wisdom.
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    Calling INFJs deep and intense is a bit little calling the ocean a shallow paddle pool. Understatement of the century.

    Do you ask lots of questions? Do you respond in a serious or inquisitive manner to often light-hearted remarks? Do you randomly start deep and thought-provoking conversations with little incentive from other people? Do you point out a lot of things you notice to people? Are you extremely forward and open about your opinions and observations?

    If the answer to even half of those is "yes", you already have your answer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    My INFJ girlfriend was always brewing something in her head. Something with multiple layers that extended far into the past and future. It feels witchy and it always made me curious. It's what I find fascinating about her. She is so idiosyncratic and unusual. So possessed of her own personal sense of herself. Regardless of what the world around her demands. It is a radical assertion of self that makes me feel like I am in the presence of someone who has an otherworldly understanding and wisdom.
    dang it'd be cool if people think that about me. haha

    i've been told a few times that upon first meeting me people thought i was a "badass" like i was tough or something, just because i'm quiet and kind of serious. i'm not tough at all, i'm extremely sensitive. i just don't show it to people i dont know. i guess i dont show much to people i dont know/trust. if i'm around people i'm comfortable with i'm actually very silly and lighthearted.
    i guess its the quiet thoughtfulness and the way an infj might respond to people very seriously that brings about the "intense/deep" thing

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    Funny. I get the opposite. Not that people think I'm shallow, just that they think I'm an open book without a whole lot of substance. Then again, I don't show a whole lot to most people, and always make a concerted effort to put on a good face and make people feel comfortable. I've found that's the most effective way to protect my inner self - convince other people that it doesn't exist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    My INFJ girlfriend was always brewing something in her head. Something with multiple layers that extended far into the past and future. It feels witchy and it always made me curious. It's what I find fascinating about her. She is so idiosyncratic and unusual. So possessed of her own personal sense of herself. Regardless of what the world around her demands. It is a radical assertion of self that makes me feel like I am in the presence of someone who has an otherworldly understanding and wisdom.
    What the hell have you been smoking Synarch?

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    True romance.
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    One person remarked that there's a depth to me she could only imagine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Valerie View Post
    I have been told frequently that people consider me to be "deep" or "intense," but I'm not sure what they mean. I know that I am a deep thinker, but how do you suppose people see that (externally) as a characteristic?
    I have been told I was intense too, and it hasn't always been positive. Sometimes it means you are taking things too much to heart and seeing depth people hadn't intended and they will get annoyed at you for dramatizing the situation. Other people are enchanted that you are seeing deeper and complex elements in a situation and will compliment you on it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Valerie View Post
    I have been told frequently that people consider me to be "deep" or "intense," but I'm not sure what they mean. I know that I am a deep thinker, but how do you suppose people see that (externally) as a characteristic?
    They can probably sense your emotional charge underneath the surface of calm reserve.

    I think INFPs are slightly less intense than INFJs because we have this weird tendency to skip along rivers singing "This is the song that never ends".
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