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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiltyred View Post
    And do the rest of you ever get like this?
    Sure, but that's when I haven't been clear enough in my communication. Colors is completely spot on with her post. My ISFJ sister is perhaps hugest victim of this. What she thinks is self-evident, turns out to be rather easy to miss by most individuals. [And as a heads up, don't backtrack on your established boundaries. My sister does this all the time since she can't help but feel sorry for the other person.]

    If you do enjoy talking to her, you might want to suggest/arrange another time for that. We can still be diplomatic while being direct.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiltyred View Post
    I also realize it's not all about me, and as badly as I need to be left alone, she might need contact, so I do try to compromise. But for the times when I feel like my head is going to explode ... advice please.

    And do the rest of you ever get like this?
    All. the. freaking. time.

    Start taking a gun to work.
    God. wouldn't you just love to aim it at her head tho?
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    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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    I just start checking out and acting really dismissive. Short responses. Little explication. No inflection of voice tone. They figure it out. Nobody can bask in the Absolute Zero of the disinterested-INTP presence for long.



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    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    I just start checking out and acting really dismissive. Short responses. Little explication. No inflection of voice tone. They figure it out. Nobody can bask in the Absolute Zero of the disinterested-INTP presence for long.
    Wanna bet?
    You'd think differently if you had boobs.
    Quote Originally Posted by Ivy View Post
    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    All. the. freaking. time.

    Start taking a gun to work.
    God. wouldn't you just love to aim it at her head tho?
    I'm not sure it would satisfy me just to pull the trigger. I'd kinda want to whack her in the head a few times, just to burn some energy off. I'm thinking more like baseball bat, what do you think?

    She's a nice person and she's a good person to have as a friend, she's just sometimes very clingy and ... dense. Like, after three or four emails from her, to which I answer mostly that I'm trying to get some work done, I write "I'm in hunker down mode," and she writes back "What does that mean?"

    And I've said "Look, you've asked me how my weekend was three times now. What do you want?!" and I get "Oh, three times, my. But who's counting, right? hahahahaha"

    I did try putting some structure on it. We have lunch once a week and for that hour I'm all hers. And I tried modeling behavior, telling her I'd saved something to tell her, hoping she would save up stuff to tell me on our lunch day. Sometimes it works.

    I would like to be friends with her if she wouldn't be up my ass all day at work.

    Ok, now I have to go beat myself up about having mean thoughts, excuse me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiltyred View Post
    I'm not sure it would satisfy me just to pull the trigger. I'd kinda want to whack her in the head a few times, just to burn some energy off. I'm thinking more like baseball bat, what do you think?

    She's a nice person and she's a good person to have as a friend, she's just sometimes very clingy and ... dense. Like, after three or four emails from her, to which I answer mostly that I'm trying to get some work done, I write "I'm in hunker down mode," and she writes back "What does that mean?"

    And I've said "Look, you've asked me how my weekend was three times now. What do you want?!" and I get "Oh, three times, my. But who's counting, right? hahahahaha"

    I did try putting some structure on it. We have lunch once a week and for that hour I'm all hers. And I tried modeling behavior, telling her I'd saved something to tell her, hoping she would save up stuff to tell me on our lunch day. Sometimes it works.

    I would like to be friends with her if she wouldn't be up my ass all day at work.

    Ok, now I have to go beat myself up about having mean thoughts, excuse me.
    lol. Just ask her if she's put on a bit of weight recently.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ivy View Post
    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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    How about you don't respond to the emails from her until you get off work? Maybe that would get the message across.
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

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    Ohhhh, that's good!

    Blackcat: Then she'll just show up at my desk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    lol. Just ask her if she's put on a bit of weight recently.
    God you're a monster.

    (I love it!)

    Similar comment: "When did you stop dyeing your hair?"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiltyred View Post
    Ohhhh, that's good!

    Blackcat: Then she'll just show up at my desk.
    wow that's annoying. Shouldn't SHE have work to be doing?
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

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