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Fidelia: Draw better boundaries.
Fidelia: In some cases, it is not productive to expend energy on those people because they are high drama/low change and what they are doing is not working for them.
Me: LOL. High Drama/Low Change is a great way to put it. I'm going to incorporate that into my vocabulary/mindset. I've cleared those people out of my life. It feels great!
Fidelia: If someone seem too ready to accept your advice, they will be blown about by every breeze that goes by. If they are looking to you to save them from their problems, they will be sorely disappointed and their disappointment and anger will fall on your head. If you try to intervene before they are ready to want change for themselves in a real way, then you will end up in the middle their problems.
Me: I've come to this realization too - the hard way. I like the way you articulate this.
Fidelia: As I've gotten older, I've learned to disengage more easily and to not encourage or be as receptive when there is nothing productive to come out of the interaction. As a result, I can then invest my energies in more equal friendships or help those who are ready to make the changes necessary to have better outcomes in their lives.
Me: This sounds very healthy. I need to learn how to how to disengage a bit more... Good ideas here.