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    Default NFPs, what have you noticed is the difference between being infatuated...

    and being in love? Other types can chime in too. This topic may be over-done but I haven't figured this one out. I think what I feel for him is a deep, caring, be the father of my children love, but there are days when I feel very differently. I switch back and forth constantly and I don't understand why I do that.
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    Hormones.

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    I imagine love is probably what is left over after you've gone through some shitty times together and made it through or something.

    I am soooo romantic, huh?
    Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.

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    um, you're possibly experiencing the kind of infatuation that leads to love...tell me, how is your bond with him psychologically? can you talk to him about anything? do you trust him? is he your best friend?

    I'm going to second gromit in a way by saying that real love is something that develops over time, though I wouldn't necessarily call it "what's left over" ...that kind of love is actually much more powerful than the initial infatuation, in my one experience of having been in that kind of real love.

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    I still think my explanation is more accurate !!!

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    Didn't know there was a difference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arclight View Post
    I still think my explanation is more accurate !!!
    No, because it's vague.

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    The word love frightens me; It can mean anything, and nothing, in literal and figurative speech. Some never use it, while others use it frequently.

    I doubt that I should be giving advice. Not because of my age, but because of my lack of experience in longterm meaningful relationships. I wouldn't dare to call what I feel "love." Since I spend a lot of my time alone, my hope turns into obsession, and my obsession turns into depression. Perhaps this is what you mean when you say infatuated? (Unreasonable passion?)

    I've not once said I love you to someone. I've many times wanted to say I love you, but given the short amount of time we've known eachother, and I mean realy short, it wouldn't have been appropriate. I'm talking weeks-, days, not even in a relationship,- type of short time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    No, because it's vague.
    It's not vague, it's actual hard science. Love is a hormonal reaction.. as hormonal levels vary.. so do emotions

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    it almost seems like the two words have a connotation
    that's different for everybody. love doesn't has to last forever.
    and it's not unusual if it doesn't.

    you can fall out of love, you can un-love someone.

    infatuation, also doesn't have to last forever.
    but when it stands alone, it's easier accepted
    and less romantic-bubble-bursting that it doesn't
    have to last forever.

    but what makes one less real than the other? the intensity of the feelings?

    i feel infatuation is part of being in love.
    but i also believe some loves at its purest
    state doesn't and most often shouldn't be
    "forever". some kind of love is perfect for a
    weekend with a stranger you just met...

    while some is great with a partner that you can grow up with for a few years.

    but then things change. they always do. that's how
    we know we are growing. and sometimes we just
    don't grow at the same time.
    every normal man must be tempted, at times,
    to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag,
    and begin slitting throats.
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