The problem is...I find myself very much attracted to NT's. I really liked him when I met him and continue to miss his brilliance, creativity, strong work ethic. He was so admirable and deep. Yet it would explain why we lost touch. We couldn't communicate with each other. He WANTED to treat me right, but didn't understand my excessive emotions and chalked it up to me not being happy with him. I'm just SO confused because I was very upset a lot about the way we interacted, yet I did and still DO want to be with him. So happy is a very complicated thing to define. I guess I wasn't often in a happy state, but I was happy with the overall fact of being with him. CONFUSING.
One thing he mentioned was that the only thing that makes me more miserable than being with him is being without him. In a way, I guess that makes sense. It's a shame, though.
One thing I intend to do in the future if I end up with another INTP...or any NT, for that matter, is understand him better. I didn't really understand the first thing about his personality or why he acted the way he did, which is why I was constantly taking it as a personal attack or a complete change in his character. For example, oftentimes I thought he was doing things to be passive aggressive...when really he just didn't understand the way I felt about it. Also, he would claim to have an opinion about something, but then change his mind later because of the situation because I guess he didn't think it applied the same way. I got upset with him because I felt he didn't take things as seriously as I did, and he got upset because in doing so I was questioning his judgment. This type of thing happened a LOT.
Interestingly enough my brother was an ISTP...literally my COMPLETE opposite. However, we've lived together all our lives and have made a strong effort to understand our vast differences, and it has actually brought us very close together. Had the same been done with my ex, I feel that we could have worked it out over time. But he didn't.