So, I have been quite alone (outside of my family) for quite some time now. I get along with it, I am not making a drama out of it currently. However, while I get along with my life, I think there is potential for improvement. I noticed in some situation this week again very well how I have some desire to have some more contact with other people again.
I didn't take any steps to get to know people in the last time at all. I actually was never really much the guy who was taking first steps to find other people, since I am pretty shy. Currently my self-confidence isn't too high either (well, when you have barely contact to other people and don't get much appreciation since some good time then you cannot easily behave like it would be the most natural thing to me). However, I notice that in the current way I lead my life I don't really get chances currently to get to know other people "by chance". I am studying, so I am currently 4 days / week at university to visit the lessons, but after nearly one year I didn't really find any friends here at all. The problem is that there is just no situation to talk with other people for me at all. You listen to the guy in front of us, the students sit all together with their same old friends they know already and I sit alone. So no chance to get to know there anyone. I think the setting is too much "businesswise", not really a setting for meeting friends. So I believe if I would want to get to know some people then I have to do something more for it than just waiting for it.
So I think I need some setting which is more open for contact with people. Now, most people seem to suggest that you should visit one of the hundreds of student partys, but that doesn't seem like a good setting for me either. I wouldn't feel well when I come to a party with hundreds of people where everyone most probably already has his mates with whom they go there etc. and where I know absolutely no one. I know I would be too shy to talk to one there from my own at all, and I am pretty sure no one would just come over me to get to know just me when there is hundreds of people around them which look like more fun (if they don't just stick to their old mates).
As an introvert I would seek for an situation which gives a better chance that people would like to get to know me, that means a smaller setting where people would notice when I come in and where the setting isn't that businesswise. Now I have no idea where I could find such a setting currently. Has someone an idea where you can get to know people when you are a shy loner like I am?
PS: I wasn't sure where to post the thread; I posted it in the NF area since I thought they would maybe have the ideas fitting best. But what is actually the difference between NF Idyllic and the Personal Threads area? Not sure now if it was the right area I posted in.