lets say they do it to a person they're dating, or a very good friend, or to someone they love and care about very much, or at least they supposed to if everything is going ok.
why would they break plans giving no real valid reason? but just saying they don't feel like it and run into their cave.
why would they do that if they knew other person was looking forward to it and it would hurt her, more because it wouldn't be the first time they forgot or something?
why would they say to you to find someone else to go with or go alone? but then an hour before it, they'd changed their minds saying they'd go if you had't found anyone to go with. and when you rejected their pitty last minute call of course feeling disrespected and mistrusted, they avoided you. it was not really about tit for tat, it was for them to learn that was irresponsible and not right. (sorry if it sounds harsh though.)
i just wonder about the reasons for all this immature sabotaging acting of testing and pushing buttons. is it they are giving up on everything with that person and don't like her anymore? if so why?
how to deal when something like this happens with infj?
please help me a bit if you can as i'm NT and don't really know you guys well.
(oh and i'm really sorry i could've just said it's my boyfriend of 3 years i'm talking about which makes it very hard and full of questions. i can tolerate it if it's ok but i didn't want you to feel sorry for me if he's walking all over me.) do your answers change now knowing this?