okay so I know I'm an extrovert but i feel like most NFs can contribute...
I started a new part time job this weekend and had to meet a million people. I was able to charm all of the people I spent one-on-one time with, one of them an obvious sort of SJ was introducing me to others as
"Hey, this is the new girl! Yeah, I actually like she, she's one of the nice ones"
and that seemed so awkward saying in front of me, but it was cute.
and then the other people I spent a lot of time with, were like "You are so funny, and easy to talk too, I'm so glad we're working together"
and "I can talk to you so much more than to other people""
But my problem is when I'm not with people one-on-one I get a bit awkward and shy and feel like I NEVER say the right thing in groups of new acquaintances who all already know each other. I felt so uncomfortable... when in the group situation they weren't unwelcoming but they were very SP and SJ, like entirely pronounced (most of them, some I dont know) and discussing down to earth issues and it really didn't help they were all already friends... I didn't know what to say and ended up being really quiet, afriad I wouldn't make any sense...
girl at work: So, what's your story, honey?
me: Oh.... um.... yeah... I'm really uh... short...
girl: I meant, like, where are you from, dear?
i sounded retarded.
is this normal? How does one act more calm and normal around groups like that?