Hello INFJs .
I see things. I know you guys are the E-Ninjas and investigators.
I know, despite your general warm and caring natures, there is a duality laced with a streak of cruelty, self righeousness, paranoia and revenge.
All of this is ascertainable just reading the doorslam thread.
You can debate this, but it's not the point of the thread.
The point is.
You love someone, you have called them your soul mate and tried to "save" this person.
This person has rejected your saving. bascially despite this person loving you. They have rejcted you.
You feel hurt and angry. In dealing with your hurt and anger you have villified this person.
You feel horrified that you have been rejcted and through villification have decided that you have also been manipulated and ergo, now feel your love and effort were wasted.Whether this is accurate or not, You feel it and that is what matters.
So on one level you care deeply and are hurt by a person, on the other hand you so hurt and angry and you have doorslammed.
However after the doorslam you have a window into this person's life.
Maybe a forum like this one, Facebook or whatnot.
1- Look in this window?
2- If Yes, for how long after the doorslam?
In your ambivalence towards this person as you monitor them, do you
4- Wish them the best and take joy from their growth and success
5- Stick a pin in the effigey you have made of them and send out negative energy, hoping they fail until you feel satisfied that they have understood your own pain.
Thanks to anyone who reads and answers this.