I’d like to consider myself a fairly healthy person, with an occasional side of anxiety, usually due to my perfectionist attitude and my idealistic view of how people should (could) be... this is sometimes over something that has happened in my life that creates unwanted drama. I get so worked up sometimes over why people do what they do. I know i have no control over it, but it still gets to me.
For instance, I had a friend a while back that seemed great on the outside but she was a complete mess on the inside. She tries way too hard to be someone she’s not. She talks shit behind people’s backs, then acts sickeningly nice online and in person... very fake. It’s like she’s two totally different people. And she’s also very self-centered. These issues caused me to distance myself from her. A few months ago, she wrote me and we both agreed that the friendship was over but that there were no longer any hard feelings. Then a few weeks later, she writes me again trying to start drama. I had already told her exactly how I felt, so I didn’t feel any need to respond again. Then just yesterday (a month later) she writes me again saying that she felt that my facebook messages were about her and she couldn’t be my friend anymore on there. First of all, no messages were about her. To be honest after she cheated on numerous people, then her husband, I really lost respect for her and stopped caring about her at all. She also mentioned how bad i hurt her by thinking she wasn't authentic, etc. So I read the message and laughed b/c of how ridiculous it was… but then couldn’t shake this annoying anxiety over it. Not b/c I care about her, but b/c I’m just so pissed that she keeps trying to start shit with me. Why the need for all the unnecessary drama?
Does not being able to figure out the actions of others and drama give you anxiety? I woke up today in a total funk and just want to tell her to fuck off, but I know that won’t solve anything in the long run.