I don’t have many expectations for people who aren’t likely to cross my path on a regular basis, but I do find that I have expectations for some people- who I’m not particularly close to- if I have to deal with them on a regular basis (i.e. co-workers or neighbors). These aren’t necessarily good expectations in which I expect them to adhere to a certain moral standard: I take my observations of them into account and create a mental list of “this is how the person might react” to use while interacting with them. It helps me to anticipate reactions, and make decisions about how to interact with them according to the specific expectations I’ve collected for them.
I worked with an ESFP nurse for a while who was completely inconsistent with the way she managed her staff: she’d fire people for things that she often turned a blind eye to with others, she’d dump a group of new hires on me for training without any notice whatsoever and she quickly dismissed any feedback I tried to give her about this. This is an example of someone I wasn’t close to- but I really needed to form a basic understanding of her motives and intentions and create expectations specific to her in order to continue working with her. I didn’t need her to adhere to the high moral expectations I have for the people I am close to, but I did need to anticipate how she’d react during my daily interaction with her. I need to do this- create a sort of mathematical equation out of their characteristics to predict how they’ll react before it actually happens- with just about everybody I am required to interact with regularly. I think finding out about others' motives and intentions is such a relief (for me anyway) because it takes the randomness out of interacting with other people, it removes some of the unknowns and makes the external environment more predictable.
I don’t know. I can definitely see some e5 influence in there- lots of overthinking. But I thinking the e5 (or maybe even the sp variant) just makes me need to do this more than other INFJs- and the tendency itself is an INFJ thing?