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  • I'm ENFJ - I want/have children

    1 1.05%
  • I'm ENFJ - I do NOT want children

    3 3.16%
  • I'm INFJ - I want/have children

    23 24.21%
  • I'm INFJ - I do NOT want children

    5 5.26%
  • I'm ENFP - I want/have children

    11 11.58%
  • I'm ENFP - I do NOT want children

    4 4.21%
  • I'm INFP - I want/have children

    15 15.79%
  • I'm INFP - I do NOT want children

    8 8.42%
  • I'm not NF

    6 6.32%
  • I'm not a female

    12 12.63%
  • I don't know yet or any other answer that's not in the poll

    7 7.37%
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  1. #71
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    Thus far:

    INFJ: 18 yes, 5 no (78%)
    INFP: 14 yes, 6 no (70%)
    ENFP: 10 yes, 4 no (71%)

    And then there is,
    ENFJ: 1 yes, 3 no (25%)

    This makes me think about an ENFJ I know. She had a child 10-ish years ago (unplanned) and she is a great mother, all things considered. But, I notice that she leaves her child with family and friends A LOT. There's like this fierce streak of independence in her - she's always running around, going here or there, involved in social groups, tons of friends, etc. But, very seldom brings her daughter along. From the outside looking in, it's almost as if she has compartmentalized things. She'll be at home with her daughter on most weeknights, put her to bed, get her ready for school in the morning, etc - but if she can get a babysitter (and most weekends), she's hitting the town and having a blast and it's like she wants to live the single life - often times not even wanting to talk much about the kid. Maybe it's just cuz that's her "time off" from being a mom so she wants to be carefree.

    I totally would have thought that the ENFP's would have been the ones with a low percentage of yes votes. ENFP's just seem like they don't want to be tied down or stuck at home at all. Like they would want less responsibilities and less obligations, if you will. ENFJ's seem more of the "responsible", structured type with a million different responsibilities while ENFP's seem very "outside the box" and "don't want to be trapped into anything for very long".
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    INFJ: 23 votes.
    INFP: 20 votes.
    ENFP: 14 votes.
    ENFJ: 4 votes.

    I strongly caution against drawing conclusions about ENFJ's based on such a small sample size.

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    Having children is the most selfish act and raising them is the most selfless.

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    Dear God, it would serve me right to have multiples on my first go.
    "The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things." - Rainer Maria Rilke

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    Quote Originally Posted by Offog View Post
    INFJ: 23 votes.
    INFP: 20 votes.
    ENFP: 14 votes.
    ENFJ: 4 votes.

    I strongly caution against drawing conclusions about ENFJ's based on such a small sample size.
    Yeah, I'm aware of statistical significance. I'm certainly not going to go out and write a book on my findings. It's just a fun thread and interesting to throw around ideas and get input from the 4 different NF types.
    NTJ's are the only types that have ever made me feel emo.
    ENP's are the only types that have ever made me feel like a sensor.


    There are two great days in a person's life - the day we are born and the day we discover why. --William Barclay

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    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    Having children is the most selfish act and raising them is the most selfless.

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    Dear God, it would serve me right to have multiples on my first go.

    Yeah I voted on this ages ago, & that still stands [a resounding fuck no].

    iwakar puts it in the simplest of terms, perfectly, why one may or may not want them.


    If only I could find a way to birth a litter of sphynx kittens. My purpose would be fulfilled in this life.
    *continues knitting, humming a soft lullaby*
    03/23 06:06:58 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:06:59 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:21:34 Nancynobullets: LEXXX *sacrifices a first born*
    03/23 06:21:53 Nancynobullets: We summon yooouuu
    03/23 06:29:07 Lexicon: I was sleeping!



    04/25 04:20:35 Patches: Don't listen to lex. She wants to birth a litter of kittens. She doesnt get to decide whats creepy

    02/16 23:49:38 ygolo: Lex is afk
    02/16 23:49:45 Cimarron: she's doing drugs with Jack

    03/05 19:27:41 Time: You can't make chat morbid. Lex does it naturally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexicon View Post
    Yeah I voted on this ages ago, & that still stands [a resounding fuck no].

    iwakar puts it in the simplest of terms, perfectly, why one may or may not want them.


    If only I could find a way to birth a litter of sphynx kittens. My purpose would be fulfilled in this life.
    *continues knitting, humming a soft lullaby*
    Y'know, I'm fond of Pharaoh Hounds.



    However, I would not want to birth a litter... surry for me?
    "The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things." - Rainer Maria Rilke

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    Score another one for undecided, though I probably will if I can. My problem is being tied to the father of the child(ren) for life in a romantic relationship. No one has been up to scratch yet in that respect. I would feel so sad if I had kids with someone and we had a terrible relationship.

    I would consider a non-traditional arrangement. I've actually had a conversation with a friend before about possibly having a child together one day and living next door to each other while we raise the child (as our first priority in life) but still live our lives. It's not such a bad idea to me. I would also happily adopt and will most likely do that anyway.

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    I am laughing that the INFJ's have the strongest "yes" vote so far, because I have always wanted a lot of children even when I was younger, and now as an adult I have a lot of children!

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