User Tag List

View Poll Results: NF women - do you want children?

Voters
95. You may not vote on this poll
  • I'm ENFJ - I want/have children

    1 1.05%
  • I'm ENFJ - I do NOT want children

    3 3.16%
  • I'm INFJ - I want/have children

    23 24.21%
  • I'm INFJ - I do NOT want children

    5 5.26%
  • I'm ENFP - I want/have children

    11 11.58%
  • I'm ENFP - I do NOT want children

    4 4.21%
  • I'm INFP - I want/have children

    15 15.79%
  • I'm INFP - I do NOT want children

    8 8.42%
  • I'm not NF

    6 6.32%
  • I'm not a female

    12 12.63%
  • I don't know yet or any other answer that's not in the poll

    7 7.37%
First 45678 Last

Results 51 to 60 of 78

  1. #51
    Senior Member Xellotath's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Socionics
    IEE
    Posts
    181

    Default

    On further note,
    I think I cant have children on -principle-.

    I feel like I havent answered the question "why do I exist at all". Of course I do, rationally - I understand evolution and basic biology.

    But none of these explanations account for the experience a person will have. As a parent you are directly responsible for everything your child experiences, after all, you pushed it into existence.

    And do you have control over all the variables? No. Of course not.

    I can't shake the feeling that its fundamentally irresponsible. It takes a lot of faith in your environment to do it. A kind of subtle megalomania, seeing as you're also placing faith in your abilities.

    ..I might be crazy though.

    "Neurotic, ha!"
    I let out a scornful laugh.
    "If neurotic is wanting two mutually exclusive things at one and the same time, then I'm neurotic as hell.
    I'll be flying back and forth between one mutually exclusive thing and another for the rest of my days.
    "

    — Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar.

  2. #52
    THIS bitch stringstheory's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Enneagram
    1
    Socionics
    EII
    Posts
    932

    Default

    Well in my opinion I'm still too young for children or too young to know for sure myself (22), but I am leaning towards no for a number of reasons. The biggest reason being the fertility problems i have; it seems like to go through the process/effort to have my own children would be time consuming (and not in the fun way ) or expensive. I don't know if i'll have the means or the motivation to go through this kind of effort for children of my own.

    Secondly, I want to make a career in Social Work with my community and unfortunately this means I might have to give that up. If I'm working in this kind of a field, I want to fully dedicate myself to assisting my community, and I also would want to have a lot of time to invest in raising my children on my own so I don't think I would want to try and juggle both, especially considering the state of maternity leave in this country.

    So in conclusion....I have no idea, leaning slightly towards "no".
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    Introverted Feeling (46.7)
    Extraverted Intuition (45.7)
    Introverted Intuition (37.5)
    Introverted Thinking(26.5)
    Extraverted Feeling (25.4)
    Extraverted Thinking (22.1)
    Extraverted Sensing (19.5)
    Introverted Sensing (17.0)



  3. #53
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Posts
    246

    Default

    i do not want a child of my own. the cons outweigh the pros, for me.
    i am enfp.

  4. #54
    `~~Philosoflying~~` SillySapienne's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Posts
    9,849

    Default

    I definitely want to have at least one kid!!!!

    Definitely.

    `
    'Cause you can't handle me...

    "A lie is a lie even if everyone believes it. The truth is the truth even if nobody believes it." - David Stevens

    "That that is, is. That that is not, is not. Is that it? It is."

    Veritatem dies aperit

    Ride si sapis

    Intelligentle sparkles

  5. #55
    Nickle Iron Silicone Charmed Justice's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    2,808

    Default

    I had my first and only biological child in my early 20's. I went from not wanting any children, or just one, to wanting about five after dating my ex who had a large family with young children I really bonded with.

    I would love to have more children, but expansion is stalled until my relationship dramatically improves. My ability to give right now is lower than what I believe to be fair for another child.

    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    Maybe the idea of being tied down isn't that big a deal to someone who is already a homebody? I dunno.

    I know my (I think) ESFP mom didn't want to breastfeed because she didn't want to be tied down. My youngest brother was born when I was 21 and when she said she didn't want to be tied down, I was thinking What difference does breastfeeding make in whether or not you are tied down? You have a kid you are tied down.
    One of my best friends, an xNTJ, said something similiar. She stopped nursing after 2 months because she was tired of being "tied down". She's quite the responsive mommie though.

    I don't recall ever feeling tied down by being a mother, even after nursing for three years. Different folks, right?
    There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.

  6. #56
    Senior Member cafe's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    9w1
    Socionics
    INFj None
    Posts
    9,827

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Charmed Justice View Post
    One of my best friends, an xNTJ, said something similiar. She stopped nursing after 2 months because she was tired of being "tied down". She's quite the responsive mommie though.

    I don't recall ever feeling tied down by being a mother, even after nursing for three years. Different folks, right?
    I guess so. I've felt downright suffocating, clawing at the glass trapped on more than one occasion and am too lazy to mess with washing a bunch of bottles when I've got a milk spigots sticking right outta my chest.

    I would feel more tied down by having more dishes to wash and having to remember to pack bottles when I went someplace. I certainly wasn't going to get very far without my kids because I didn't have a lot of people offering to babysit.
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
    ~ John Rogers

  7. #57
    RETIRED CzeCze's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2007
    MBTI
    GONE
    Posts
    9,051

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly View Post
    What's more beautiful than creating a life and helping to shape it into the best individual it can be? And I think the bond between a child and their mother is equally as beautiful. I think it's totally worth giving up your independence etc.

    I would even adopt a child. Most people seem to want to adopt babies...but I wouldn't mind adopting a teenager...even one with behavioural problems. A lot of people I have spoken who claim to have maternal instincts just seem to like cute little kids...like it said in the OP, they have the attitude: "yes, kids are cute. I think it would be fun." I dunno, I just think what I feel is so much stronger than that...I'm more than prepared to take the rough with the smooth. I don't think I would ever be able to say that my life felt meaningless or empty...and feeling will be so worth all the "not so fun stuff" that would come with being a parent.
    I can resonate with this.

    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    NFs do want kids.... they just want them 10 years later than an ESFJ wants kids.


    True, my maternal instincts didn't kick in until my early to mid-20s which some might say is early? Before then it was all more like 'big sisterness', not mom-ness. I knew I wanted to have kids since I was a late teen at least, but always pushed the time back and back and back. It's amazing how "young" you feel (and maybe act ) the older you get. I especially can't imagine having a child right now in my life considering how unsettled/between careers/between cities/single I am.
    “If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.” ― Oscar Wilde

    "I'm outtie 5000" ― Romulux

    Johari/Nohari

  8. #58
    Nickle Iron Silicone Charmed Justice's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    2,808

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    I guess so. I've felt downright suffocating, clawing at the glass trapped on more than one occasion and am too lazy to mess with washing a bunch of bottles when I've got a milk spigots sticking right outta my chest.

    I would feel more tied down by having more dishes to wash and having to remember to pack bottles when I went someplace. I certainly wasn't going to get very far without my kids because I didn't have a lot of people offering to babysit.
    Yes, precisely! The conveniences of modernity aren't always that convenient. The last thing I needed was more dishes to wash, and more things to carry along with me.
    There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.

  9. #59
    mrs disregard's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    INFP
    Posts
    7,855

    Default

    I only want a child when I'm "established", financially.

    I don't want my children to grow up poor. :horor:

    Not so much for them, but because I don't want to live my mother's life.

  10. #60
    Senior Member scortia's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    205

    Default

    I wouldn't mind a kid someday, just to make a positive impact on their life (I'd hope). I'm not really picky... by childbirth, adoption, whatever works. The only reason that I'd want to give birth would be to see if my eccentric genes can be passed on or not.

    But, if I never take care of a kid I'd be fine. For one, I'm going to be the only person in my family responsible for my mentally handicapped brother when my folks go. He's like taking care of a big 2 year old anyhow. Also, I love my independence and not having to sacrifice it to an ankle biter is fine by me haha.

Similar Threads

  1. [ISTP] istp's Do you want kids?
    By tayto in forum The SP Arthouse (ESFP, ISFP, ESTP, ISTP)
    Replies: 76
    Last Post: 03-19-2012, 05:24 PM
  2. [NT] NT women - do you want kids?
    By INTPness in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 37
    Last Post: 06-29-2010, 12:39 AM
  3. [NF] NFs, how do you deal with Thinking...
    By SolitaryWalker in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 83
    Last Post: 01-27-2009, 10:34 PM
  4. What do you want!?
    By Littlelostnf in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 29
    Last Post: 09-03-2007, 03:42 PM
  5. Where do you want me to stick this?
    By Oberon in forum Welcomes and Introductions
    Replies: 77
    Last Post: 07-25-2007, 04:57 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO