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    I definantly get along better with males. I've always been sort of a tomboy at heart. I may dress feminine and enjoy shopping and like to be treated like a lady by my boyfriend. But, there is that one part of me that doesn't care what my hair or make-up looks like and just wants to chill out, lay back, no make-up, no fancy clothes. Just do what I want and be my free-spirited self. It seems like my guy friends allow me to be a free-spirit more than my girlfriends do.

    Guys are a lot less drama. A lot less judgmental. And a lot more fun. The only reason I have girlfriends really is to gush about other guys that I love. :P

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    A thousand times yes. Granted, most of my better male friends are all gay, but still However, I was raised in a family of boys, the only other females I really had around in my life were my mom and some of her sisters.

    For me I think it's just I don't know how to interact with "most" girls. It's not that I don't always care about what they're talking about or anything like that, it's just this weird social awkwardness; always feeling alienated, like I didn't belong there. The only girls I find I really get along with are other girls that have mostly male friends.

    However, since I changed my major to Gender/Women's studies, I've made a lot more female friends and have learned the importance of having other girlfriends in my life, even if it's only a few. Quality over quantity I say, same goes with male friends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stringstheory View Post
    most of my better male friends are all gay.
    In my early 20s most of my best male friends were gay. And most of my friends were men. In fact, I had so many male gay friends, that I came to the undesirable conclusion that I needed to get some straight friends... for purely Machiavellian reasons. Did I also mention that I didn't date a lot in my early 20s?

    Quote Originally Posted by stringstheory View Post
    For me I think it's just I don't know how to interact with "most" girls. The only girls I find I really get along with are other girls that have mostly male friends.
    I can totally identify with what you said here. Looking back on my life, I've come to the conclusion that this was an S/N thing for me. When I made friends with men, I chose them (and they chose me) because we had something in common. I didn't know it at the time, but I was picking N men.

    With women, however, I was far more likely to hang out with women not because we had similar communication styles... Instead these were the women who lived on my hall or who worked in the cubicle next to me. These women were usually Ss and I just didn't get them.

    And even though I was well-liked, they didn't get me.... but they didn't even know they "didn't get me." As an ENFP, I was very good at being able to talk to them on their level. But always - ALWAYS - I grew tired of talking about ephemeral girlie crap that I didn't give a flying hoo hoo about. Eventually I'd get sick of never expressing my "true self" around them. And, my "true self" had almost nothing to say to these otherwise nice and friendly people.

    Since I've come to see this feeling of alienation with most women as an S/N thing, I've made more female friends. Now I'm much better at smoking out those elusive N women with whom I can talk about the things that REALLY matter to EstoricWench... which occasionally includes normal girlie talk like boys, makeup, and shopping.
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    I'd love to hear what this has to do with getting along better with men, please.

    Edit: I mean, yes, I get the general point but it doesn't do a lot to give me a satisfying explanation as to why on MY side I find it difficult to make solid social connections with other women. Also, why most of my male friends are gay anyway
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    Gay males are most likely to be judged by their own gender. Females are much more receptive to their attitudes toward life. That would explain the last part of your problem.

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    I wouldn't necessarily call it a problem. It's just interesting.
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    I can't stand most people. Does that count? :-)

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    It is. What's even more interesting to me is the fact that a gay male found a best friend in a straight male. That he felt comfortable enough to allow himself to be known as such to everyone. This is my case. The friendship has faded away, but it still happened. Me being the straight male.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ReflecttcelfeR View Post
    It is. What's even more interesting to me is the fact that a gay male found a best friend in a straight male. That he felt comfortable enough to allow himself to be known as such to everyone. This is my case. The friendship has faded away, but it still happened. Me being the straight male.
    Maybe he wanted to be more than friends.
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