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    Quote Originally Posted by lbloom View Post
    How much would an INFJ want their SO to express emotions verbally? Or are you entirely content to have your SO "feel it inside" only, too?
    Express as much or as little emotion as you want... as long as you don't force us to verbally say everything I think most of us are tolerant.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silently Honest View Post
    *Clears throat*
    I'm pretty sure that was a list of all the INFJs who had posted in this thread.

    Want to add anything?

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    Quote Originally Posted by lbloom View Post
    How much would an INFJ want their SO to express emotions verbally? Or are you entirely content to have your SO "feel it inside" only, too?
    Personally, I don't mind it too much to hear "I love you" every once in a while. And I don't mind getting the occassional shower of compliments. Or being told I mean a lot to someone or that I'm missed. Just...I think that too often (like...more than once a day...and even then once a day might be too much; it depends) is likely to desensitise me to the showering of affection. I like non-verbal modes of expression and actions in general more than direct verbal expressions. (Though, if done correctly, sickeningly cheesy verbal declarations of love can be both touching and hilarious.)

    Moderation is best, but if one mode is dominant, then a little of the other from time to time is good too.

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    My ENFP twin sister has dated/been involved with INFJ men, and thinks they're great. She does have a beef with their "holding back" but that falls completely under the heading of not being forthright, not about being emotionally gushy, demonstrative for her sake, or weirdly verbal. She likes the company of INFJs and enjoys their vibe, and finds the NF-NF connection really natural, and she doesn't need a lot of verbal stuff flying at her to make her feel connected to said INFJ. She also says she likes the intensity of the INFJ-ENFP match.

    I'll have to get her in here when she's feeling better to expound further. I'm an eNFJ so she has an NFJ around her 24/7 and I know I make her nuts. ha ha!
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    Quote Originally Posted by nightning View Post
    *smacks head* Me too... Sometimes I feel fake when I say that "I love you" What does that mean really? What is love? I don't know! People keep on saying when you feel it you'll know. But huh? I've felt tenderness and caring. Is that love? The SJs seem so sure that they loved me. Yet me on the other hand was absolutely confused. It's an issue of being genuine. I feel that what I say must be correct. Yet Fe sense the other person wanting the love to be reciprocated. It makes for an extremely awkward situation. And the easiest way out is to run away.
    I hate being forced to say ANYTHING I don't elect to. I wind up feeling extorted and tend to back up even further.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lbloom View Post
    How much would an INFJ want their SO to express emotions verbally? Or are you entirely content to have your SO "feel it inside" only, too?
    I like verbal expression, sure, especially things like "I miss you" when we are separated. But what I am a real sucker for, is physical tenderness. Hugs, kisses, touching, holding hands, massages, and all that stuff. Makes me melt

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    Quote Originally Posted by nightning View Post
    What is love? I don't know! People keep on saying when you feel it you'll know. But huh? I've felt tenderness and caring. Is that love? The SJs seem so sure that they loved me. Yet me on the other hand was absolutely confused.
    you haven't been in love IMO.

    your Ni knows. like, it just KNOWS.

    maybe you shouldn't date SJs, lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinzon View Post
    Yeah, absolutely.

    Words are cheap to me. I may not express my love verbally as often, but I'm very touchy-feely with my girlfriends. I'm very fond of spending the day in bed cuddled up with someone.

    I also tend to recoil from touch when its someone I don't know. Maybe this is why I crave it so much with people I am intimate with?
    That sounds exactly like me.

    Except, I'm shy about hugging people, even if I do know them.

    But I'm very, very cuddly in bed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinzon View Post
    I also tend to recoil from touch when its someone I don't know.
    Ugh, absolutely! Major private space invasion

    Maybe this is why I crave it so much with people I am intimate with?
    Something like that, yes, I guess. Something like: touching is for sharing intimacy with the people I love, so I don't like touching people I don't love, and I love touching people I love.

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