Oh, and of course, you'll notice that I just tried to deflect your compliment to me Honestly, though: thanks, and I'm always glad to be of help. I just hope that nothing will backfire if you try to apply any of my pieces of practical advice! (If it does, don't hesitate to complain: even a backfire is a useful piece of information to better understand someone)
It's not ridiculous. It's just the way you are. Just because INFJs are so not like that doesn't mean it's ridiculous. By the way: you might want to tell that to your INFJ. Just be sincere, and tell her that it's just the way you are. As long as you make it clear that you don't expect her to be the same, or to morph herself around your needs, she shouldn't have any major problem with it. Though she might be a bit lost at first as to how to deal with it, so then you might want to discuss it a bit more. Discussion, discussion, discussion: you can't go wrong if you choose to truly, deeply, sincerely, honestly, and reciprocately discuss with an INFJ Just make sure you give her time to digest the stuff you've told her!* We DomNi types need time to put all the pieces together and decide on a new strategy. It's normal. It doesn't mean we have forgotten what you told us, or dismissed it, it just means that we are still "cooking" it. You've got to wait until the cake is out of the oven, but then you may be amazed at what we came up with!An ENFP feels a very strong feeling that they equate to love very quickly; then they want desperately to share that feeling verbally and for it to be reciprocated the same way. ENFP's are the ultimate compliment fishers, and they almost "fish for love" in that way, as ridiculous as it sounds.
* Also make sure she feels safe enough to bring up an "old" issue with you again. That's another typical trait of INFJs: we understand things in stages. So sometimes we need to revisit an old issue because we now have a better/deeper understanding of it, so we want to re-explore it to see if we can get an even better understanding of it yet.