sorry if this sounds depressing but i could use some advice.
I'm a recent college grad and have been living at home for awhile now (it sux ) and have no clue what i'd like to do. i just know i'd like to earn enough to live on my own away from my parents.
but as an ENFP I suck at making good decisions for my future. I'm fully aware of that. I don't think it's just cuz I'm an ENFP, but probably because I haven't matured or developed my other functions and my iNtuition goes haywire all the time, imagining different, better possibilities out there.
My parents are really smart and have this plan worked out for me that'll have me in great financial shape down the road. However, the plan requires me to continue living at home for the next 5, maybe even 10 years! What kills me is that I live in the suburbs and my parents have me run lots of chores while I'm home, and it's been killing my relationships, sex life, leisure time, and, most importantly, the time all young men need on their own to make their own mistakes in life, deal with the consequences and mature from it.
i haven't left, yet, though, because of fear. they tell me that i wouldn't last a second out in the real world on my own, and that i'm being foolish and childish for wanting financial independence so quickly without being adequately "prepared." Me, I think that the best way for young guys to learn is to dive in unprepared and learn as you go along. I mean, it's how my dad and his father b4 him became such stellar men, one who lied about his age to enlist for WWII and the other who left home at 20 and built up his own business from nothing. i really admire this can-do quality and want to acquire it myself, but my parents say I'm being foolish and unreasonable.
i'm just not sure if I am the one being unreasonable here. My parents are absolutely right about a lot of things...like how I'll be much more financially secure if I get a job through one of their connections, although it's in an industry i don't like (investment banking), and continue to live at home. They see no problem with me working 80 hours/week and then coming straight home afterwards, repeating this process for several years until I've saved up enough.
Problem is, I just cannot accept this kind of lifestyle. I think the monotony would destroy any ENFP, even mature ones. But I have no reasonable alternatives to suggest, so I come off as being naive and impractical when I discuss this with my parents. All I know is that deep down, all of this feels wrong.
What should I do? I don't know what I'd like to do for a career, but should I just pick an industry I don't mind too much, and start looking for ways to get a job there? Like, perhaps, advertising or marketing? I mean, that's gotta be better than waiting around for life to make my decisions for me, right?
But more importantly, I'd like to know if you think I'm being immature, as my parents say, or if I'm actually being reasonable enough in not wanting to follow their plan?