I wanted to seek advice regarding an issue I note with myself and with other ENFPs.
When we are logically approaching a topic we are using tert Te. It can be erratic. Verbally we can come across fairly smooth, authoritative, composed. At worst we can be a bit clipped-we have finished "thinking" before the other people so will tend to cut the other person off and move on. However we can very quickly observe the other persons discomfort and back peddle IRL-thus learning how not to do this by molding to the communicative needs of the person in front of us.
In written communication however, when using Te, we can come across as exceptionally harsh and clipped. Part of this is the energy pull it requires to be focused. I note this in myself, in two VPs I work with and in another enfp in a manufacturing position.
So my question-
Do you have suggestions?
Are there websites or books that may be of use to build a vocabulary of sorts to smooth written communications? Sort of an Fe toolkit we can learn to use in written communication to soften the tone?
Any other ideas or thoughts would be awesome!