Hi. I'll try to make this short-ish.
I've been living in South Korea (for the second time) for about 4 months now, and it seems that I've made only male friends. I'm frankly surprised at this because I've hardly managed to make male friends at all before, let alone half a dozen of them. Equally perplexing is the lack of female friends, which has generally not been a problem in the past.
I feel really isolated from the other women. They travel without inviting me, but frankly I don't know if I'd want to come with them. Still, I'd like to be invited, at least ONCE. Give it a try.
I'm nice. I'm friendly. A bit quirky or spacey sometimes. Maybe a little opinionated and bossy (oldest child, really, I was socialized for those) but relatively easy to work with and easy going. Talkitive. Intelligent enough.
I study Korean, I read the news, I watch youtube videos. In the evenings I work out and watch National Geographic. I like Sci-fi. I like hiking. I like eating organic food and talking about how to free your home from toxins. Shopping for something other than books or music or...icecream is only done when neccessary.
Now, a prime example is that I walk past the office the other day and some of my Korean coworkers are sitting with one of the English speakers and they're all laughing and talking. So I stop near the open door and listen, thinking that maybe if I know what they're talking about I could get them to laugh like that around me. They were talking about shopping, and buying a purse to match their shirt. This weekend they're going out...to watch Sex in the City 2.
It's a purse, and possibly a second installment of an already rediculous movie. And I realized that even if I were to join in the conversation what I have to say would stop it dead in its tracks.
I seem to offend or drive away women often lately.
I feel at a loss.
Now, I love hanging out with the guys. Spent some time at a coffee shop last night discussing pack mentality in humans with a few of them. Good times. But, I'd like to be able to have a girl over, to discuss periods and blah days and wanting to cry and those ocassional times I do see a dress I love and...girl things.
Am I missing something? I wonder if it's because most (all?) of the women I'm around this time are clearly S and some of the men are clearly N. I never had to try to make female friends before, it just happened. Help?