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    Default The NF Males' List of Deal Breakers (Rip off)

    I know this is a rip off of "The NF Females' List of Deal Breakers", but reading your wonderful lists of "Deal Breakers" was very fun for me and made me want to write my own list. NF males write your own list.

    Must Have

    Similar spiritual views
    Kind
    Compassionate
    Ability to connect
    Passion for one's beliefs
    Understanding
    Likes to cuddle
    Honesty
    Be open to me
    Can accept me for my flaws

    Extra Credit

    Similar hobbies, interests, etc
    Willingness to try new things
    Open mind
    Has my physical preferences

    Can Accept Depending on the Situation

    Kids
    Smokes
    Divorced (Has to be a really good reason)

    Deal Breaker

    Missing something from my "Must Have" list
    Obese
    Really Stupid
    STDs
    Violent (Both to self and others)
    Issues not handled in a healthy manner

    Edit: This thread is mainly for fun. I do feel it is important to know what kind of person you would want to have in life, so making a list for yourself can be a good thing.
    Last edited by Yloh; 06-09-2010 at 01:06 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yloh View Post
    Divorced (Unless her spouse has cheated)
    Why is that? I don't understand this one.
    The beauty of a living thing is not the atoms that go into it, but the way those atoms are put together. ~ rCoxI ~ INfj ~ 5w6 so/sp

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    I hate making lists. Considering you don't really know how long a relationship will last, people change (both you and your significant other), it's not as if picking a partner is as easy as going to a buffet and grabbing what you want. I guess the magnitude of my P'ness is really obvious here. I don't want to establish any standards that can't be altered, depending on the individual. When looking for a relationship, I consider traits that would indicate a faithful personality. Intelligence would be nice - there has to be some common ground for communication. Physically, there isn't a cookie-cutter formula for beauty. Many different women are beautiful in different ways. I have to be attracted to her, but ultimately physical beauty will fade so if I am looking for a long-term relationship, there's no sense in putting strict criteria on looks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blairvoyant View Post
    Why is that? I don't understand this one.
    Well I'll admit I did write this list pretty quick as there are situations where the husband beats his wife, puts her life in danger, and does other really bad things like that. I can over look those things.

    Seeing the high divorce rate in this world really pisses me off. Me, never been married, is looking forward to finding that special woman to spend the rest of my life with. Seeing someone get divorced because their partner wasn't willing to work with them, financial reasons, fell out of love their partner, their partner changed over the years, their partner never changed, etc really makes me wary of starting a relationship with them. They had found their true love (Why did they marry that person in the first place?) and gave up half way through. How do I know if you are going to divorce me if I had a major struggle in my life, if we really disagreed on a major issue, our financial situation went to crap, we suddenly had different views on raising our kids, lost her "love high" with me, etc.

    When someone gets married they are saying they will love their partner "Unconditionally" and stay with them forever "Death till we part". If a person gets a divorce, it is telling me they were not willing to work through the struggles of life with their spouse.

    If you are a woman I had true respect for and you were divorced, I would really have to know the details as to why you got a divorce, before I could trust starting a relationship with you. I should move divorce up to "Can Accept Depending on the Situation".

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    Ok, that makes more sense now.
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    MUST HAVE
    Prior experience enabling an alcoholic


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    Mute


    Deal Breakers

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    Must Have:
    pretty face
    attractive body
    Intelligence
    humility
    passion
    compassion
    a respectful nature
    grateful for the small things
    love life
    want a family
    sense of humor
    connect emotionally
    loyalty
    good at sex


    Extra Credit:
    Geek girl / Gamer girl
    Like horror movies (big extra credit)
    into astronomy
    reads a lot / writes
    interested in expanding both mind and soul.


    Deal breaker:
    untrustworthy (cheating, lying, etc)
    domineering/controlling
    obsess on material as the ONLY thing in life.
    judgmental
    careless of other peoples feelings
    obese
    unhygienic
    Ground control to Major Tom

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    Quote Originally Posted by MoneyJungle View Post
    MUST HAVE
    Prior experience enabling an alcoholic


    EXTRA CREDIT

    Mute


    Deal Breakers

    Standards


    ...sorry

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    ^For some reason, when I read that list? I thought "blow up doll" one's with mouths open and legs spread wide apart.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Yloh View Post
    When someone gets married they are saying they will love their partner "Unconditionally" and stay with them forever "Death till we part". If a person gets a divorce, it is telling me they were not willing to work through the struggles of life with their spouse.
    .."Can Accept Depending on the Situation"
    +1. I also think it's about really knowing who we are and understanding what works and what doesn't. Sometimes marriages start out at a young age, and if a couple weren't compatible, it brings out the worst in them. In some cases, spousal abuse (mental, physical, emotional)<--- any of these can pretty much eat away at a person's self-esteem. In other cases, they find a highly compatible match, hit the jackpot. It's like being dealt a lucky card!

    In general, any two people can be 'together.' The important thing is- "How Happy?" of a union will it be? What's the quality like? I think getting from point A->B here is really about self-understanding, and having the ability to love someone in a natural way so that we're not expecting them to 'change' who they are as a person, deep down inside, because acceptance is a HUGE part of love/blissfulness/relationship longevity. Changing habits on the other hand? Like smoking/not wanting our partners to die of cancer is different. I'm interested in what NF males think. Didn't mean to derail, carry on..

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    deal breakers?

    religious
    dumb
    mean (and means it)
    offended easily
    unattractive (this covers everything else, not just physically)

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