All of the examples regarding mental health seem to qualify as 'abusive'.
Why don't you change the criterion to 'not abusive' instead of blanketing all mental illness as a problem?
I don't think anybody was making a blanket statement about mental illness itself as a problem. Its just something that has to be factored in. When you're sharing your life with someone, you each bring your own problems into the relationship. After that, a vast majority of the individuals problems become the problem of BOTH parties in a close relationship. The person's problem affects the relationship and thereby the other person as well. That's something a lot of people forget. That's why communication skills are so important for the success of a relationship. You see a lot relationships end because one person wasn't even made aware of the problem in a relationship until it was too late(or the person with the problem shut out the partner and tried to handle it all on their own), instead of talking and resolving things as a couple. If the way a person is handling their mental illness severely undermines their ability to trust and/or communicate with their partner(2 major foundations for a solid relationship), then the relationship is going to be very tumultuous and likely short-lived.
"People in glass houses shouldn't use Windex when living near bird sanctuaries."- myself
"We are never alone my friend. We are constantly in the company of victories, losses, strengths and weaknesses. Make no mistake, life is war...and war is hell. Those who fight the hardest will suffer the most...but that's what you have to do: Fight. As long as you're feeling pain, then there's hope...because only the dead do not suffer." -RD Metcalf
I know it, and thats just the mild stuff, the crap im into is NUTSO. Is it wrong that I love being used and discounted as a person and selfishly used/abused for someone elses sexual gratification? I wonder if thats the Fe in me...
I'd like to go on record as saying that I have fantasized about tying you up/gagging you.
Originally Posted by Ivy
Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.