On the other side of the coin, is it important for us INFXs to have more surface level friends or just more friends instead of bestest best friends? I can't open myself up to people I don't know extremely well, people who I don't really trust and with whom I don't share a relationship dynamic that I know really well. For example, I don't have any guy friends because I don't know how to cultivate that relationship. I am so, so reserved and I love my 'sisters'. But sometimes I see people whose birthday parties include 50 people and mine have always been a handful and some people may see it as 'sad' and I may feel envious/shocked/confused but I need my friendships to be deep and loyal and absolute. It's like sharing my very vulnerable self and I don't like it with too many people.