Your search will only take forever if you stop looking.The connection and chemistry was undeniable though. I feel like I will forever search for that again.
My dear Scientist,
I've always had a soft spot for your avatar, and every time I see it, I have to read the post next to it more closely. There is a sense of wonder, a sense of beauty, and if you look closely, a sense of determination that will never be quenched.
You broke up due to values. That's the determination. You broke up because you have standards. That's a good thing. It hurts, but it is so very, very good. Your heart will thank you, in the long run.
Stop telling yourself to get over it. You are (your Fi side is) too effing stubborn to get over it until you're good and ready. Ride the feelings, don't quench/suppress them. This is the NFP wisdom the xNFPs have to teach us xNTJs. When they're this strong, they'll carry you along, for a while. Think of it as if you were splashing through the waves at a water park. Just face up to the feelings, wallow in them, let them emotionally soak you to the bone. Go ahead. Shed your tears. I won't look, I promise.
When you're done, you dry off, and be back to your usual calm self. And you'll be ever so slightly different. You won't realize it right away, but your Ni side will have gone through and cataloged and experienced everything your Fi and emotions went through. Your experience will become a part of your INTJ-ness, in a good way. Most INTJs will just push those emotions aside, ignore it all, and cripple themselves by not experiencing them, gradually becoming colder and colder. By experiencing them, your Ni will remember! It will remember what you liked, what you loved, what brought you joy, what you admired, what hurt you, what you hated ... what a wonderful connection with another human being feels like.
You know how powerful our Ni is. You probably encounter guy after guy, wanting to get to know you, and you think, "Um, no, thank you. Next!" This is bad, especially for a young INTJ. Yes, you're usually right, but you probably reject a lot of good opportunities without a second thought. (It's OK, it's how INTJs work.) But here's the new thing: with this under your belt, your Ni will be much better at seeing what you like and what you don't. You will know yourself better. You will see what you love more often, not less. You know what you love "looks like" now. You know better, now, what real love feels like. (Just because the person wasn't the right person doesn't make the love any less real.)
You are so afraid of never finding this kind of connection with someone ever again.
My dear, be glad that you are so very very wrong: you will find it again, and again and again and again ...