In regards to my reasoning at the time: The "hoops" in question would vary on the situation and the people in the relationship but essentially they would be whichever maintained the woman's happiness and whichever caused the woman's attraction to the man to continue. Situations vary and with it the measure of how much love is in the relationship e.g. a woman being with a man ultimately because he provides her with financial security and then determining him to be a less suitable partner if he loses his job or does not make enough money to give her the financial freedom she craves. Sure she may love him as a person but the man would not be all she loves, she has other needs that need to be fulfilled. Likewise a woman may like a man who spends time with her, empathises and listens etc. but the man may have less patience 2 years down the line for these things than at the beginning and/or the man may continue at the same levels but the woman does not need such things as much after a certain point and finds herself desiring something else which her partner perhaps cannot provide to a suitable amount. Needs can change over time, what was enough before may not be enough now; a women may have a strict list of what she desires but it would be a list which ultimately could become obsolete; opting for a partner who ticked all the boxes at the beginning but no longer as time goes on rather than accepting a less than perfect alternative who would provide an initially slightly flawed yet ultimately rewarding and sustainable long term relationship.
In the end a relationship in a sitation like the examples given above would require an exponential increase in input energy from one or both parties in order for it to remain a sustainable entity, if the woman refuses to compromise or meet the man halfway then does that mean the man must bend over backwards more and more to satisfy her? Are women ultimately worth that much effort?
Of course it isn't a simple issue. I don't really chase relationships myself as I a) have no value for it on the whole outside of bouts of loneliness and b) I would not care enough for it to desire to save it and would actually become annoyed if the woman bent over backwards to save it! Anything I mentioned above would apply to me and could apply strongly for most other men. Also, I stick to the assertion I made in a previous post that on the whole men do not need women in a relationship sense as much as women need men and that women should perhaps bear that in mind.