Sounds like you took her factual Te observation of ENFJ men she had observed-then continued with your analysis of what her facts actually meant as a personal insult-not what she said.
Does Fe/Ti misread a flat Te statement of fact as a subtle Ti insult? Also-Fe "completes the sentence" meaning it makes convos sound polite-but each Fe user completes the more negative translation in their own minds. Te/Fi does NOT do that. With Te/Fi, what you see is what you get. Meaning it sounds like you completed lady's sentence, on your own....and thus developed meaning she never actually intended.
And yes OP. Very often I state things as facts or very bluntly even when no emotive content is involved. Simple "thoughts" can sound rude via text. In person this comes across okay unless I am very agitated or upset-then I can sound bitchy.