Some questions for you! I've had a lot of fun with the ENFP's I've known over the years. Great dynamic, lots of laughing, they're intrigued by me, they enjoy my humor and, basically, I could see myself "settling down" with one (*gasp* ). Every individual is different, but the ones I've known, I could envision myself loving them long-term.
I have my eye on one at the moment. I've been an acquaintance of this girl for about 3 years now (she's a close friend of several of my friends), but there hasn't been much 1-on-1 conversation in that time. We only know things about each other "through the grapevine" and through personal observation, but when we have been together, there seems to be this "strange, unspoken, mutual intrigue". It's almost like if there is one zebra who has been at the zoo by himself for a long time and then they put another zebra in the pen with him and the two zebras can't stop sniffing each other's rear ends (extreeeeemely romantic visual, I know) But, really, it's as if we're both giving each other glances as if to say, "I don't exactly know how to approach you or what to say to you, but there's something about you that really intrigues me." What needs to happen is we need to break the Ne-ice and get the Ne-to-Ne conversation going. That would open things up real fast. But, like I said, I've only seen her Ne (LOTS OF IT) in groups, but I myself have not been able to interact with her 1-on-1.
Anyways, on to the questions. Just some general questions about your type. Don't be offended (it's obvious that I'm a huge fan of your type), this is just me asking real questions based on my real experiences with your type.
1. How do you guys view long-term commitment? On this page (http://www.9types.com/descr/7/), it says that one of the hardest things about being a type 7 (I know not all of you are type 7) is that you "feel confined in a 1-on-1 relationship". If you find someone who you love and who loves you through and through, is committing for a lifetime still a "scary thing"? Try to speak from your actual experience rather than your idealistic romantic ideals. Once you get 3-5 years into the relationship, are you starting to get bored?
2. Let's face it, P's have a lazy streak. I've had periods in my life where I wasn't very productive at all. I'm all about freedom of choice and space in a relationship, but if I were to end up with an ENFP, one thing that could possibly frustrate me to no end, would be if it was taken for granted that I'm the sole bread winner in the family. I have no problem being that person in the relationship, but what would really irk me is after 5 years if she just started staying at home, playing video games on the computer. She doesn't have to have a 6-figure job or anything, but basically, I'd want her to contribute to the family in a big way because we're in it together. Have some humanitarian hobbies, go hang out with your girls, etc. But, contribute to us and what we are doing before you "play games" and "go for nature walks". Is this something you guys struggle with? I only ask because I've seen it with the ENFP's I've known.
3. Basically, what's the ideal for you in a LTR? What keeps you interested, committed, and fully engaged with one person for years to come?