i was married, eventually changed my name and yes felt like a sell out....not an identity loss but more that i was giving into the system rather than fighting back. But his last name was cooler than mine....I dumped him but kept the name
how do you think an ISTJ would react if someone didnt want to take their last name
Depends on the ISTJ, and how significant the naming convention is to them. An ISTJ was actually one of the people I've mentioned above. She kept her last name because it was, more or less, a 'tangible' connection to her family's roots. If it were the other way around (where she's the male & her husband is the female), then hmmm... that's a good question.
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