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    Default All is fair in love and war?

    It seems like everywhere I turn I hear people agreeing with this statement, but I don't necessarily think I agree with it.

    I was watching a movie the other day and in one scene a woman asks a man she began dating, "True or False....All is fair in love and war?" The guy answered, "True." And she looks at him with joy and says, "Good answer!" I would have answered false.. (Now granted this guy might have just been telling her what she wanted to hear, but let's just pretend he was telling the truth)

    Also, the other day I overheard two guys talking in a restaurant. One of the guys was talking about how he was in love with his best friend's wife and he was going to try and steal her away from him... He justified this by saying, "Hey, all's fair in love and war."

    Now of course war is a more complex issue. I kind of go back and forth on this one, but I lean more towards disagree. Now granted it's kind of hard to be fair if the people you're fighting against aren't being fair, but as an ENFJ i'm just compelled to abide by this subjective code of ethics that are in me.. So I'm guessing that's why I lean more towards disagree.

    What do you think?

    Agree or disagree? Why?

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    i just watched that too

    umm...very very tricky question tho. i don't think any lines should be crossed but i'm not much for rules either...i think if someone were seeing someone and met someone else with whom they fell in love with and then realized they needed to end their relationship in order to be free to pursue the other one without ever telling the new person how they felt...without promises or deciding only to end the relationship if the other was interested...then...i think that seems like the right thing...so in a sense i respect that they broke the rule of not being tempted because it's honest and unfair to the person they're in a relationship with to stay out of obligation instead of want.

    does that make sense?
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    I don't know about it being fair.. but It might start a war.

    So the relation continues ..

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    Disagree for sure. There are values higher than romantic love and war. Ethics.

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    not true-I dont value rules-but if you choose to be in a relationship with one person over the other, be straight forward and honest to both of them. It may be painful, but it prevents harm in the end.

    It requires courage though.

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    Legally the statement is false, which puts the whole debate into question.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    Disagree for sure. There are values higher than romantic love and war. Ethics.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Southern Kross View Post
    Legally the statement is false, which puts the whole debate into question.

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    "you made them worse."
    "worse...or better?"

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    explain to me how you guys are seeing it tho...because i too disagree that all's fair in love ...meaning nothing immoral should be justified in the name of love...so does my previous comment contradict that or is that still being ethical...just curious.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    explain to me how you guys are seeing it tho...because i too disagree that all's fair in love ...meaning nothing immoral should be justified in the name of love...so does my previous comment contradict that or is that still being ethical...just curious.
    I dont agree with "the end justifies the means" I think that, like you said first is ok, if someone falls in love with someone while in a relationship it should be brought up and no of that sneaky shit. (I think that was what you where thrying to say at first, I am not really sure couldn't follow it very well. I suck, I know)
    "I put the fires out."
    "you made them worse."
    "worse...or better?"

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    This is one of those sayings that irks me - like the "what happens in ___, stays in ____".
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