I was in a relationship with an extremely unhealthy INFJ.
The breakup was a messy 1 month process...involving many angry emails from him, followed by an apology email full of, "You don't know how I feel..." and "I want to think that you're a nice girl, but..." and "Remember back when we were happy?" and, "[enter name] is so much nicer, why can't you understand me like her?" stuff in there, begging me to meet with him to talk just "one more time"....because "just 5 minutes could solve everything."
He hadn't talked to or seen me for about 2 months until he randomly texted me yesterday saying that he wanted to apologize. I told him that it was ok and forgave him and we had a normal, every day conversation after that.
Then he texts me today saying that we need to talk about the past.
What he doesn't realize is that the fact that he keeps bringing it up is what is pushing me away. I don't know how to get this through his head. I want to forget every crappy thing that ever happened, in fact, I never really want to see him again, but he keeps persisting on us being friends. So, I'm trying, but he's making it impossible. I had told him before that I'd contact him when I was ready to be friends again, but of course he disregarded that.
Then he tries forcing logic on me that doesn't even make sense, followed by a "think bout it" .....
How do I knock some sense into him and get him to stop harassing me?! I've tried everything: ignoring, being nice, being mean, telling him he's being immature, telling him to stop, telling him I won't reply anymore.