If I don't really care about the girl one way or another, that tension can be fun, and something I enjoy playing around with just to see what happens. But if I like her, I find myself trying to release it.
That's possible, too. Although I don't know how he can possibly know you well enough to have determined that... you've known him for what, a month?This is actually what I want, too! Maybe it's just an extraverted/intraverted thing, where I want to go out and do things with other people, and he wants to sit in and chill. So maybe what I'm mistaking for wanting different types of romance is really just a minor clash of how we expect that to manifest the majority of the time. I would also like deep undying love, but as I guess is related to your previous point that I didn't quote, I want flirty and challenging now and to combine it with deep undying love later...it may be that he's decided I'm "the one" so now he can stop looking and settle immediately into the partnership he's always yearned for .
Sounds like he's watched too many "love at first sight" movies.
Well stated. And if MBTI or gender doesn't explain it, we always have the Enneagram to come in and save the day!"It may be that whether we think someone's type influences our attraction to them depends on their gender. If they exhibit traits that are expected of their gender (such as an Fe/Ti female or Fi/Te male) then we attribute it to their gender. If it's unexpected, like a shy sensitive man or a cold logical woman, we attribute it to their personality type.