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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Can you give us more examples? And how old are you?

    How exactly do you communicate? What specifically do people get angry at you about?

    As for your mom - if you don't see eye to eye, I wouldn't necessarily blame it just on yourself and think something is "wrong" with you. Some people just love criticizing their kids or want their kids to be Exactly Like Them. Parents also have a job (and actually more of a responsibility IMHO than their kids have to them) to try to understand their children and communicate clearly with their kids so that you at least understand why they are getting angry with you.
    I'm 31. I bet you weren't expecting that. I used to think I was soooooo good at communicating with people, until I realized that I wasn't.

    I posted above an example of a conversation with my mother. They usually involve some slight misunderstanding where I chose to use a pronoun instead of a proper noun. I find that I jump around in conversations. I could be talking with someone about relationships. We will go onto something else. But in my mind I am still thinking of relationships. So then I mention something about relationships 10 minutes later. And they think it's soooo random. "Where did that come from???" When in fact, it was still in my mind. Just random to them.

    As for my mom, no we don't see eye to eye. Regardless of that though, communication is rough.

    At any rate, it's getting worse for me lately...or maybe I just now really started paying attention to how I communicate. My thoughts are scattered too, only because there are so many of them that I take off into different directions. I might needs meds. Haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alcea rosea View Post
    Maybe you are surrounded by the kind of people that don't understand you? Maybe you are going through a phase where you are also searching for yourself and thus people can sense that you aren't sure of yourself and that is why you feel they are treating you wrongly and not understanding you?
    Yeah, it could be. I am lacking N connectivity in my life, I think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Malkavia View Post
    I wouldnt say Im "difficult", I usually try my best to unite people under a banner and inspire them. How old are you?

    I AM stubborn however. My idea is always right, obviously. I cant let things go and its a problem. THAT can make me difficult I think.
    31. Don't get me wrong, I like to unite and inspire too. But not everyone is receptive. Not everyone thinks I am difficult to understand or communicate with. I am not stubborn at all. I think it truely is my communication style, which I am hell bent on fixing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elemental Chaos View Post
    I don't think anyone ever told me that I was exceptionally difficult. Still, it feels like my emotional roller-coaster and principles makes some people wary of me

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    Yeah...the emotional rollercoaster. I've been called moody. But I think that has more to do with my generalized anxiety disorder. I could be wrong there, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mister Eyebrows View Post
    What? No. I'm accommodating of others to a fault.

    I do tend to respond to others as they respond to me, though--for good and for bad. If you yell at me, expect me to raise my voice and be much more direct in kind. If you're snarky, then, well, congratulations; you've given me license to be snarky, too.

    So, for the people who can dish it out but can't take it, I'm pretty difficult.
    Hmmm this has me thinking...

    I make faces all of the time. I am so full of expression. I don't even know that I'm doing it. People always ask me what's wrong. My teacher stopped class once just to ask if I was ok and what was wrong. hahahahaha. But nothing was wrong!!!! I wonder if people notice my expressions and it causes them to act a certain way. Like you said, it gives people the license to be that way too. Like maybe is someone senses that I am mad, they act mad too. I dunno. Just a thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Orobas View Post
    Oddly, internally we feel as though we are very flexible, but externally this can look odd as you will see different facets of our personality as we mold to others around us to match them. All facets are very real-but we can look like we have no fixed core as a result-yet have a very firm sense of identity.
    Exactly. I think I genuinely feel like I am flexible. But other people don't really think so. And it pisses me off when they think I am not flexible or hard to understand or unable to communicate effectively, because I always thought I was good at these things. So it kind of has been hampering my self esteem. How people talk, act, etc...that is their identity....who they are.

    So lately, I think I've been having an indentiy crisis so to speak. How should I act...how should I talk...I am starting to doubt myself. I've been starting to shut down like I can't do anything right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MafiaAngel180 View Post
    Exactly. I think I genuinely feel like I am flexible. But other people don't really think so. And it pisses me off when they think I am not flexible or hard to understand or unable to communicate effectively, because I always thought I was good at these things. So it kind of has been hampering my self esteem. How people talk, act, etc...that is their identity....who they are.

    So lately, I think I've been having an indentiy crisis so to speak. How should I act...how should I talk...I am starting to doubt myself. I've been starting to shut down like I can't do anything right.
    I can relate. I've had family members and coworkers where I felt like this with. My strengths (ex: enthusiasm, sensitivity) were viewed as annoyances.
    It's frustrating when you feel like you can't bring anything worthwhile to the table and you care so much to do so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aimee View Post
    I can relate. I've had family members and coworkers where I felt like this with. My strengths (ex: enthusiasm, sensitivity) were viewed as annoyances.
    It's frustrating when you feel like you can't bring anything worthwhile to the table and you care so much to do so.
    Amen!! I hear that!! And for me, it always seems to be with those I care those about.

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    you guys are writing very well and are clearly understood, why dont you try talking the way you are all writing
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    Quote Originally Posted by slumdogtrillionaire View Post
    you guys are writing very well and are clearly understood, why dont you try talking the way you are all writing
    Because we go over our posts several times before pressing "submit"

    Or at least I do
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