I fully acknowledge that my observation was based solely on my anecdotal experiences and not empirical research. I also freely admit that I was speaking in gross generalizations and that obviously there are many subtleties that could not be covered in the brief post necessitated by this online venue. In other words, I never pretended that my OP was anything other than a personal observation about the INFJ men I've encountered. Part of why I posted my observations was to see if anyone else had noticed the same thing. I was seeking more information, not drawing a conclusion.
I do not carry around anger about the INFJ men in my life. I am actually quite fond of all the INFJ males in my acquaintance... even the ones that occasionally need a little head whackin'.
I love to observe people and learn from watching their behavior. For a couple of years now (ever since I began delving into MBTI once again) I've noticed some major "issues" going on with the otherwise super cool INFJ men I know. I wasn't looking to reach this conclusion. It has smacked me over the head several times.
But hell, what type doesn't have their weak points. I'm an ENFP. I'm late on a regular basis, have a sporadic attention to detail, and sometimes don't follow through on stuff. Let me be the first to hold up my hand and call myself an idiot.
We're all idiots really. That's the great thing about MBTI. We can see the boxes we're (and others) are stuck in that we didn't even know were there.
- Esoteric Wench
"We've all got the inner knucklehead. It's good fodder for stories." - Joel Coen