INTP & ESFJ Relationship
I know anyone can be clueless and not really sure how to express affection but just saying. I don't mean to generalize, It's more based it on a lack of Se/Fe on my end and seeing what other INFPs have to say.
I ask cause as an INfP I'm finding I tend to relate quite alot to INTPs in how they experience dealing with affection and how to give affection etc. Seeking advice or wanting to seek on noticing the need more.
I've also thought on many occasions in my head " if i didn't want to be here I wouldn't be. I'm here cause I want to be." similar to expressed in the thread above.
Here and there i've actually said when I felt my SFJ mother was also much like mentioned in this thread above ^ would assume my neutrality being negative. No I'm just neutral, what's so bad about that? Especially when she'd doubt how much i'd care for her etc.
But I also notice a similar struggle with trying to express affection and not be expressing my usual neutral nature. But even then I have trouble recognizing the needs for closeness of the other and myself.
Even if it's tried to be brought to my attention... the notion goes right over my head. Which I have and do try really hard to understand how i can perfect on reaching out to others like that. I honestly thought I've improved even in practice .
I'm so clueless to reaching out my hand to initiate hand holding or cuddling.
I've even asked one time "How do you cuddle?" It was confusing to me to get physically close to another individual as such. I'll freak over what should I say here? What do I do here if this happens or that?
Also back in HS, it took me till after they left and some time to realize I liked them but I just didn't know how to say it and was rather clueless to it. It's like I look back on it and I thought about said person romantically but that's where it stayed my thoughts. I didn't know how to reach out or express it.
Now I'm trying to be more aware of this aspect in relationships .
I do seem rather neutral and distant too. Is all these thoughts normal for an INfP. Is it an INXP thing? You know lack of Se and not really having finesse with Fe as well? I personally think it's highly possible as I'm definitely an Fi dominant/Ne Aux.
Well I don't know if this thread will go anywhere just curious if other INFPs can relate to the above mentioned things at all. I just finally decided to address a thread to it as I keep reading how INTPs experience romantic relations/how they approach expressing affection and relating too it so i'm curious.