I am trying to type a friend of mine and am wondering if he is an ENFP or an ENFJ. I thought I might figure it out by looking at the cognitive functions.
He is definitely an E and a F but I am wondering how feeling would be expressed differently in an ENFJ compared to an ENFP. Basically how do I differentiate between extroverted feeling and introverted feeling, what are the clues when trying to figure out which one of these two functions someone is using?
For example one thing I have seen in primary Fe users is that they are very encouraging and great at flattering people, almost to a degree that they can appear insincere. Though my friend does make compliments I don't get this over-the-top flattering vibe from him; however he is very, very tactile and great at winning people over through a good use of body language (especially girls are drawn to him because he knows how to hug, touch somebody's arm just at the right moment etc.). Could this kind of... let's call it physical emotional intelligence also be Fe, but Fe being expressed through touch instead of through words?
Other things I have noticed about him and I am wondering which of these characteristics are Fe or Fi:
> He will stay calm under pressure, his way of dealing with difficult situations is to use his charm, put up a smile and hide what he is really feeling on the inside. He will talk about what is really going on to a trusted few, in one-on-one conversations.
> I can't remember seeing him ever being rude, I know he has some pride issues but is again hiding it behind a smile and a very winning manner and in general knows the right thing to say (or not to say) in a situation.
> He reacts very well to words of encouragement (while I for example would in general question the sincerty of a compliment first).
> He has been described as "unpindownable", since he is all over the place and seems to be constantly on the go (that isn't really an Fe vs Fi thing, more of a J vs P thing).
These are the things that come to my mind.