Please explain what fears you mean. Very insightful post by the way."Her insecurities are getting triggered by *everthing* you say becoz she's hearing the things she's most afraid are potentially true about her."
Lethe, you bring up a good point. Lol. Gotta say I agree with the part of accepting most anything as an ENFJ if I know there's respect built. The challenge with this one is even getting it in the first place...
Because I've tried so hard to open up and be understanding/caring, the darts she throws particularly affect me. She can strike my very core like I'm stabbing my own heart. Observations...
So I'm ready to shrug off my effort to reach out to her after the last four months and just let nature take it's course. Particularly after what she said today.
But then in class tonight she part initiated a decent dialog we got going. We have been texting, emailing, talking in class, on trips, and online where miscommunication has occured. However according to her I send "really rude" texts.
So our dialog this evening after class...
-----Me: At the risk of texting... I just wanted to say thank you for talking this evening. My mind is going now on all kinds of things. Hope you have a good evening.
Me: (trying to open up, no risk of being insulting by talking about my own personal feelings right?)
There is so much I think... But I don't want to say anything more because it scares my very core. I hope you feel all better for presentation tomorrow. Bye.
Her: See now there you go again... [...]
I don't understand...
How in the world are even my own personal reflections on myself and admitting my own weaknesses "extremely rude" and "attacking"? I can see how other things could be misinterpreted but even that?