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    Default Nf's: Pursue or be pursued?

    In my short dating experience I have 90% of the time been the one who was pursued.

    How about my fellow NF's? In your experience have you been the one pursued or the one doing the persuing?

    And is this real a type issue?
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    Both people need to give off signals of attraction in order to convey interest to one another, but on a technical level, most notably I've pursued.

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    hmm...i would think it more an e/i thing but i could be wrong...seeing as to how you're an i haha
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dahlila View Post
    In my short dating experience I have 90% of the time been the one who was pursued.

    How about my fellow NF's? In your experience have you been the one pursued or the one doing the persuing?

    And is this real a type issue?
    Thoughts!
    Well, seeing as you are a woman (presumably) AND an INFP, that's not really a surprise.

    Also, as for pursuing, do you mean who actually initiates (ex: ask the person out), or who begins giving the obvious body language signals first.

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    INFP - INFJ - ENFP - ENFJ
    <-pursued-----pursue->

    I think it goes like that typically, but I'm no NF. I'll see what they have to say.

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    pursued is a funny word.
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    I agree with AJ.

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    I pursue (almost aggressively) if i'm interested, but am pursued when disinterested.
    I find it far easier and within my abilities to pursue others though.

    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    INFP - INFJ - ENFP - ENFJ
    <-pursued-----pursue->

    I think it goes like that typically, but I'm no NF. I'll see what they have to say.
    I would agree with this.
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    Ajblaise: I can definately see that.
    Rainne: It's not suprising, but I'm sure there are some other INFP's who can be the pursuer. We can be determined people

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    Personally, I'd never really persue anybody because to be honest I don't have the first clue how to go about it, and there's always something inside which is like 'that'd be intrusive' even though it really isnt.
    I usually try to find ways to be helpful and useful to those I'm attracted to, even if that means they want helping to get with another woman that they like, I figure, at least they're happy...I won't help if i'm not needed/wanted to though.

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