I've thought about this. Most of the time I'm the one pursuing. I'm not quite sure how I feel about this. One the one hand, I've got my two options of a) being rejected and b) never knowing how it would turn out, I feel better when I find out how it unfolds. It's kind of fun. Plus it's gotten me more comfortable with being rejected. *bitter smile* At least I tried, right?
On the other hand, when I'm pursuing someone, I never really have the assurance that they're as interested as I am, not just playing along. Like, I really let them know that I'm interested. I try not to be a bimbo about it, but I make it clear in words and actions. I don't like to play mind games with people, like I love you one minute and I hate you the next. What I do is I give lots of attention today and a little less tomorrow, ebb and flow like that, just to see if he'll return my affections. Usually he does give something back, but the point is, I never have the assurance that he will.
I hate it when I give someone a nice little piece of my heart, or tell him something that took a lot of courage to say, and he picks it up and walks away. Doesn't give anything in return. He picked it up and stole it. That's what I'm afraid of.
Anyway. Pursuing. It's fun when it works, and terrible when it doesn't.