i.e. – I met a girl the other day at my college, and we instantly clicked. We talked for about an hour and everything was fine until she made the statement that she didn’t like animals. As soon as she said that, it was like the “click” switch was turned off and immediately I was uninterested. I tried to force myself to look past that small comment, but I just couldn’t. So even though we connected in most areas it still didn’t matter. If I don't connect with someone on a deeper level then it just isn't gonna happen. Maybe when I was younger I could look past the deeper connection thing, but now that i'm older, a deeper connection is actually the thing that I crave most. With ENFJs there is a definite difference between being outgoing and simply just picking anybody up. Just because we are outgoing and can talk to anyone doesn’t mean that we want to.
I think what you’re referring to are the younger e-men who don’t fully know who they are yet. They are the ones that will pick up anything. But the older more mature ENFJ man that knows exactly who he is would never do this.