I actually for the most part don't like being pursued. It makes me feel weird like there are these all these roles and I have to fit into a different shape. I'd much rather set the standards of the interaction. Of course it is flattering, but on a deeper level, I don't really like it.
Unfortunately it happens more often that I am pursued than am the pursuer. I am not interested in most people romantically.
Ok I lied again. I would prefer there be no "roles" at all, but if there have to be, I'd like to set them... or something?
Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.
I think it can be both, and in my case I feel that it is. I think there needs (or it works better, anyway) to be an encouragement on both sides of the aisle. I have never actively pursued, but I certainly encourage, if I am interested, which I think is a form of pursuing. I am not against actively pursuing, it just hasn't happened, as of yet. However, who knows what the future holds?
"It is not length of life, but depth of life." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson