I have a question for INFJs , or really anyone who cares to chime in.
It seems to me there are two kinds of INFJs and I am confused.
My confusion comes from a serious misunderstanding of Fe vs Fi.
As my knowledge about these two functions increases so does my confusion.
Fe is the auxiliary function. from what I understand about Fe and it's difference to Fi, why does it seem that many INFJs are actually Fi users?
What I mean is.. Why are so many INFJs loners, socially awkward and not able to get along with the general population??
Why does someone that is wired for social grace often seem to lack a sense of belonging to something they understand so deeply?
Doesn't being strong in Fe almost guarantee a socially adept person?
I see this in some INFJs..a strong sense of social responsibility and an ability to be accountable for themselves . Those who seem to understand their role in life and who thrive.
Then there is the lonely INFJ.. who is often bitter and unwilling to see how their own behavior causes much of their discomfort.. they seem unwilling to embrace others and don't know how to fit in or seem to understand social situations. They complain of feeling alienated and seem to often blame others for their miscommunications and conflict..
This says to me weak Fe .. but how can that be??
Is this a case of mistyping?
are they INFPs who are kidding themselves?
Or.. is there something more to it?
For example is it Ni related?
I would love some insight.