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    Default Do you hold grudges?

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    I think I do. Sometimes, with some people. Most of the time I find holding grudges a waste of time and energy, so it's basically pointless.

    It's not like I spend my every waking hour harbouring the negativity and plotting some evil schemes to cause those people harm. It's not something that's always on my mind but with some people I just can't help but feel reluctant to communicate with after some things have gone wrong.

    I can forgive and let go of so many things but sometimes the damage is done and the negative feeling and some subconscious resentment just lingers for a very long time until it's replaced by indifference.

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    Nope.

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    Nope. There are a couple of cases though, where not out of hate, but out of self-preservation I logically choose to not deal with that person because they are blacklisted. But it's not a grudge because they are not in my life anymore, neither of us like each other and we ended our friendship.

    Even those people...I don't hate in any way. I might say that I do if somewhere to ask...but I don't really.

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    Rarely. You've got to do something that is damaging to me personally and that really pisses me off. It does happen though. I can think of a couple offhand.

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    No, I don't. I don't forget, but I don't hold grudges.
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    not usually and if so not for long, I don't care enough to.

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    I cannot. Otherwise I end up harboring negativity and resentment internally forever. So everyone gets forgiven, although some may be avoided.

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    Life is to short to forgive the bad things people have done to you. I always take vengeance (or otherwhise karma does it for me, happens quite often) and until then I hold grudges.
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