I've never found a good example of an INFJ to get a sense of what you are like IRL. I have got dozens and dozens of people to take the test for me, plus a workplace I worked at did it as a staff day, etc.
There were only 2 people who tested as INFJ. One was my grandmother. She is very full of paranoias and is very unhealthy if she's an INFJ. (She probably is an INFJ. I just cannot use her to compare to a healthy person.) The other was a 20-something widow with 2 kids who was working full time (at a great job) while going to school to advance her education. She was overtired and powering through life b/c she had to. She also grew up all over the world, moving every year, and can speak a dozen different languages. She is not a normal person to compare with, either.
What characterizes you IRL? How do you behave in social situations/educational situations/family gatherings/where will i find you/where will i never find you/how much do you share about your personal lives, etc.
Please help me figure out how to spot them more.