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    Striving for balance Little Linguist's Avatar
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    Default How can you improve your ability to notice details concerning your surroundings?

    I have a terrible weakness: I never notice anything about the details in my environment. It will often happen that I will have gone to a certain place dozens or even more times, and I will fail to notice some very obvious thing. Suddenly, for no apparent reason, I will notice these things and say, "Is that new?" Then, I find out it had always been there, but I hadn't noticed it before.

    Another key thing: I will wake up, and suddenly it is spring. Where the hell did that come from??? The flowers are there - holy crap how did that happen?

    People will walk by me, and I will not even notice they walk by....until they say, "HEY RENEE!!!!" It's like, "Holy crap."

    My husband notices things I would never have seen. For example, we'll walk by an alcove, and he'll say, "I wonder what's behind there?"

    "Where?"

    "There!"

    "WHERE?"

    "There!! MY GOD THERE!!!!"

    I wonder what's behind there???? Well, I will dream up some crazy fantasy, and he will think more practically. Though, now I have taught him to imagine that is some kind of leprechaun forest where they have contests and parties and things.

    He asked me today, "You know what? At work, people think you are so professional and they think you know everything because you appear so knowledgeable. But then, they do not interact with you on a daily basis in everyday life, so they do not see that when it comes to daily things, you are COMPLETELY OBLIVIOUS. WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT???? I see these things, and so does everyone else, so they would assume YOU see them. But no. You don't notice these obvious things. You just walk by, dreaming in your head; thinking, contemplating, pondering the world, but you cannot or do not notice normal, ordinary things everyone sees??? Why is that?"

    Damned if I could answer. I simply said, "Pfft. In case you hadn't realized by now, my brain is wired a bit differently than most people's minds."

    How can I improve this ability???? I feel like a retarded dumb ass!!! Why can I not see the things most people see??? Is there something wrong with me??? How can I change it???

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    haha. it's just because i don't care to notice usually. it does help a bit if i make a conscious effort to and even moreso, if i am doing it on behalf of another person. like my motivation is to notice SO THAT they will feel more loved. "you cut your hair! it looks fantastic!" (yay... i noticed! hehe)

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    Probably have to shut down the N and don't make too many assumptions or jump to conclusions. When you see something and your intuition tells you what you are seeing and starts going off in its tangents, stop for a moment, take a deep breath and really look at the object.
    Or if you're reading, take the time to read every single word instead of skimming through and reading it phrases or sentences at a time.
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    You basically need to actively engage the world a little bit more. Exercising in a forest, working with tools, etc. at least that's what has worked for me - I used to be rather oblivious as a small kid, now I can't say I'm as good as my sensor friends, but it's been quite some time since I've been called "spazzy" or smth. similar.
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    I go into different modes. Spacey/dreamy mode, detail mode, theoretical mode, self-expression mode, etc. It's almost like this switch with these different settings or something. But definitely when I'm in spacey/dreamy mode or theoretical mode I have trouble with the kind of things you describe.

    Actually in high school one of my friends got his braces off and I was so surprised how everyone was commenting, because I didn't even realize he HAD braces.

    But then other times, I will notice really random little details, like "look at how that steam is coming out of the manhole and how that fire hydrant is silhouetted against it... cool huh?"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Linguist View Post
    I have a terrible weakness: I never notice anything about the details in my environment. It will often happen that I will have gone to a certain place dozens or even more times, and I will fail to notice some very obvious thing. Suddenly, for no apparent reason, I will notice these things and say, "Is that new?" Then, I find out it had always been there, but I hadn't noticed it before.
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    I don't know what to tell you, but I do feel your pain: Abysmal facial recognition, inability to find stuff that's right in front of me, not noticing when someone gets a haircut or new glasses, etc..

    However, when I started painting, I became very aware of trees; their shape, form, color, etc. Unfortunately, this hasn't translated to anything else. Perhaps I should start drawing faces...

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    I think the key thing is uniting the fantasy world and the real world so that they dont interfere with each other, or overpower one another. Activities such as writing detailed descriptions about your sorroundings and ascribing personification are great connectors. Decide to dream in the present momment and not years away from the now. This is what worked for me when I hit rock bottom and had to work my Si from scratch. Very effective, very quickly. Good Luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Linguist View Post
    How can you improve your ability to notice details concerning your surroundings?
    Make an effort to consciously change them, and when you accomplish the desired change in a relevant interval of time, learn from the experience...repeat...
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    I can be oblivious to my environment too. Café Lattes help...
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    Quote Originally Posted by niberrizbe25 View Post
    I think the key thing is uniting the fantasy world and the real world so that they dont interfere with each other, or overpower one another. Activities such as writing detailed descriptions about your sorroundings and ascribing personification are great connectors. Decide to dream in the present momment and not years away from the now. This is what worked for me when I hit rock bottom and had to work my Si from scratch. Very effective, very quickly. Good Luck
    My Si is garbage...This sounds like some pretty solid advice. So you did this and it worked?

    I'm tired of spacing out while I'm driving and missing my exits and turns. I use twice as much gas cuz I'm always zoning out while I'm driving.

    I think I'm gonna try this.
    Good lookin out

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